The Christian Home: As it is in the Sphere of Nature and the Church; Showing the Mission, Duties, Influences, Habits, and Responsibilities of Home, its Education, Government, and Discipline; with Hints on "Match Making," and the Relation of Parents to the Marriage Choice of their Children; together with a consideration of the Tests in the Selection of a Companion, Etc.Philips, Samuel
Religion
The Christian Home: As it is in the Sphere of Nature and the Church; Showing the Mission, Duties, Influences, Habits, and Responsibilities of Home, its Education, Government, and Discipline; with Hints on "Match Making," and the Relation of Parents to the Marriage Choice of their Children; together with a consideration of the Tests in the Selection of a Companion, Etc.
Philips, Samuel
Family; Home; Marriage; Parent and child
Parents should teach their children all about the character, interests and
deceptions of parlor-life. They should undeceive them in their natural
proneness to judge people from the standpoint of character assumed in the
parlor. They see the lamb there, but not the lion; the smile but not the
frown; the affability of manner, but not the tyranny of spirit. They hear
the language of flattery, but not the tongue of slander. They see no weak
points, detect no evil temper and bad habits. There is an artificial screen
behind which all that is revolting and dangerous is concealed. Who would
venture to judge a person by his mechanical movements in the parlor? Many
are there the very opposite to what they are elsewhere:--
"Abroad too kind, at home 'tis steadfast hate,
And one eternal tempest of debate.
What foul eruptions from a look most meek!
What thunders bursting from a dimpled cheek!
Such dead devotion, such zeal for crimes,
Such licensed ill, such masquerading times,
Such venal faiths, such misapplied applause,
Such flattered guilt, and such inverted laws!"
One of the most dangerous periods of life is, when we leave the nursery and
school, and enter the parlor. With what solicitude, therefore, should
Christian parents guard their parlors from social corruption. They should
prepare their children for society, not only by teaching them its manners
and customs, how to act in company, how to grace a party, and move with
refined ease among companions there, but also by teaching them the dangers
and corruptions which lurk in their midst and follow in the train of
rustling silks and fashionable denouement. They should never permit their
parlor to become the scene of fashionable tyranny. The Christian parlor can
be no depot for fashion. It should be sacred to God and to the church. It
should be a true exponent of the social elements of Christianity. It should
not be a hermitage, a state of seclusion from the world; but should conform
to fashion, yet so far only as the laws of a sanctified taste and
refinement will admit.
These laws exclude all compromise and amalgamation with the ungodly spirit
and customs of the world. Allegiance to the higher and better law of God
will keep us from submission to the laws of a depraved taste and carnal
desire. We must keep ourselves unspotted from the world. Whenever we submit
with scrupulous exactness to the laws of fashion; whenever we yield a
servile complaisance to its forms and ceremonies, wink at its extremes and
immoralities and absurd expenditures, seek its flatteries and indulge in
its whims and caprices, by throwing open our parlors as the theatre of
their denouement, and introducing our children to their actors and
master-spirits, we prostitute our homes, our religion and those whom God
has given us to train up for Himself, to interests and pleasures the most
unworthy the Christian name and character.
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