As to income and expenditure, the earnings of the various members go
into a common purse, out of which expenses are paid. Every one has a
right to food and shelter; and so it is that if some are out of work,
the strain is not individually felt; they take their rations as usual.
On the death of the father, it is not at all uncommon for the mother to
take up the reins, though it is more usual for the eldest son to take
his place. Sometimes, after the death of the mother--and then it is
accounted a bad day for the family fortunes--the brothers cannot agree;
the property is divided, and each son sets up for himself, a proceeding
which is forbidden by the Penal Code during the parents' lifetime.
Meanwhile, any member of the family who should disgrace himself in any
way, as by becoming an inveterate gambler and permanently neglecting his
work, or by developing the opium vice to great excess, would be formally
cast out, his name being struck off the ancestral register. Men of this
stamp generally sink lower and lower, until they swell the ranks of
professional beggars, to die perhaps in a ditch; but such cases are
happily of rare occurrence.
In the ordinary peaceful family, regulated according to Confucian
principles of filial piety, fraternal love, and loyalty to the
sovereign, we find love of home exalted to a passion; and bitter is the
day of leave-taking for a long absence, as when a successful son starts
to take up his official appointment at a distant post. The latter, not
being able to hold office in his native province, may have a long and
sometimes dangerous journey to make, possibly to the other end of
the empire. In any case, years must elapse before he can revisit "the
mulberry and the elm"--the garden he leaves behind. He may take his
"old woman" and family with him, or they may follow later on; as another
alternative, the "old woman" with the children may remain permanently
in the ancestral home, while the husband carries on his official career
alone. Under such circumstances as the last-mentioned, no one, including
his own wife, is shocked if he consoles himself with a "small old
woman," whom he picks up at his new place of abode. The "small old
woman" is indeed often introduced into families where the "principal old
woman" fails to contribute the first of "the three blessings of which
every one desires to have plenty," namely, sons, money, and life.
Instances are not uncommon of the wife herself urging this course upon
her husband; and but for this system the family line would often come to
an end, failing recourse to another system, namely, adoption, which
is also brought into play when all hope of a lineal descendant is
abandoned.
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