There is no use denying that when man ceased to regard the sexual act as purely animal, for propagation purposes, and made an art of it, he turned aside from nature; just as he has turned aside when he invented the wheel or used fire for cooking. Those who argue that nature’s way is best should return to the jungle. But if we agree that man may refashion not only his environment but his mind and his character, then we must admit that he may also refashion his sexuality. As Jung said, it isn’t the _form_ of the sexuality, but the attitude we have toward the sexual. If it is an expression of mutual love, an endearment of life, an art, something that brings a greater beauty to life, and riches otherwise missing, surely it is both right and good. And even if it is a necessary outlet for something not so good, but which is undeveloped, and needs development, at least it is a preventive of sometimes serious disorder. Certainly the ideal of Havelock Ellis is the highest, that sexuality should be the art of love, and that the forepleasure should culminate in the act itself; and it is true also that in many cases the fear of impregnation may be conquered, and that the self-control of the man may shield the woman. It is also true that often the use of contraceptives may cease to seem unnatural. But how legislate in the matter? Prohibition does not prohibit; and there is no way of making a couple, in the privacy of their own lives, observe an external standard. What is far better is to allow each couple to find their own moral law with reference to sexuality. If they know they are living up to something good, they should be courageous enough not to be ashamed of it. If the fear of impregnation is woman’s chief fear, that of man’s is often the fear of impotence. Many men, through lack of experience sexually or for some other reason, have this fear. This, too, may be morbid. It may originate in the fear of life itself; an inability to break through in the world; a feeling of failure, of “not being a man.” Or it may be due to undeveloped sexuality. But if we look at the matter sensibly we may see that often it is not due to any such cause, but to something more simple. For instance, it might be caused by either of two opposite teachings: the one, that sexuality in itself is a bad thing, the other, the gossip of men, that a man isn’t a man unless he is sexually virile. If a man believes the first, he must always connect with sexuality something evil and low, and if he is at all religious he may feel that he is harming his soul, or even damning it, if he has sexual pleasure. Such an inhibition in itself would be enough to cripple his sexual expression, for the very essence of sexuality, like love, is that it casts out fear. The sexual feeling in a man brings courage and aggressiveness.