BUT whatever may be the cause of sympathy, or however it may be
excited, nothing pleases us more than to observe in other men a
fellow-feeling with all the emotions of our own breast; nor are we ever
so much shocked as by the appearance of the contrary. Those who are
fond of deducing all our sentiments from certain refinements of
self-love, think themselves at no loss to account, according to their
own principles, both for this pleasure and this pain. Man, say they,
conscious of his own weakness, and of the need which he has for the
assistance of others, rejoices whenever he observes that they adopt
his own passions, because he is then assured of that assistance; and
{14} grieves whenever he observes the contrary, because he is then
assured of their opposition. But both the pleasure and the pain are
always felt so instantaneously, and often upon such frivolous
occasions, that it seems evident that neither of them can be derived
from any such self-interested consideration. A man is mortified when,
after having endeavoured to divert the company, he looks round and
sees that nobody laughs at his jests but himself. On the contrary, the
mirth of the company is highly agreeable to him, and he regards this
correspondence of their sentiments with his own as the greatest
applause.
Neither does his pleasure seem to arise altogether from the additional
vivacity which his mirth may receive from sympathy with theirs, nor
his pain from the disappointment he meets with when he misses this
pleasure; though both the one and the other, no doubt, do in some
measure. When we have read a book or poem so often that we can no
longer find any amusement in reading it by ourselves, we can still
take pleasure in reading it to a companion. To him it has all the
graces of novelty; we enter into the surprise and admiration which it
naturally excites in him, but which it is no longer capable of
exciting in us; we consider all the ideas which it presents rather in
the light in which they appear to him, than in that in which they
appear to ourselves, and we are amused by sympathy with his amusement
which thus enlivens our own. On the contrary, we should be vexed if he
did not seem to be entertained with it, and we could no longer take
any pleasure in reading it to him. It is the same case here. The mirth
of the company, no doubt, enlivens our own mirth, and their silence,
no doubt, disappoints us. But though this may contribute both to the
pleasure which we derive from the one, and to the pain which we feel
from the other, it is by no means the sole cause of either; and this
correspondence of the sentiments of others with our own appears to be
a cause of pleasure, and the want of it a cause of pain, which cannot
be accounted for in this manner. The sympathy, which my friends
express with my joy, might, indeed, give me pleasure by enlivening
that joy: but that which they express with my grief could give me
none, if it served only to enliven that grief. Sympathy, however,
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