My observation the past few years of the social side of the girl in
her teens, and especially the girl who has left school, has made me
feel that if the opportunity to choose came to me as to Solomon, I
would rather have the knowledge and power to give the young people of
to-day sane, safe amusement than anything else I know.
The social side of the girl reveals itself not only in the desire to
have a good time, but in the deep and ardent friendships formed during
the teen period.
While she enjoys to the full the society of the group, the girl in her
teens invariably has a “dearest friend,” who shares her joys, sorrows
and confidences. This tendency becomes especially evident at sixteen
and becomes more marked at the latter part of the period.
These friendships may be the source of greatest blessings or may mean
the lowering of the whole tone of moral life. Both mother and teacher
need to observe carefully the formation of friendships and be sure to
encourage only the helpful ones. Public school teachers of experience
can all testify to the rapid changes in girls which so often follow
the development of a deep friendship.
I remember a girl of sixteen, dreamy, imaginative, and so much
interested in her boy companions that lessons, home interests, and
everything else were sacrificed. What to do with her, and what
interests to substitute, were questions that both mother and teacher
failed to solve. At a most opportune time a “new girl” moved into the
neighborhood and entered school. She was practical, attractive, a good
scholar, greatly interested in outdoor athletics. Because they were
neighbors, the two girls were thrown much together. The companionship
deepened into friendship. Soon the dreamy sixteen-year-old was playing
tennis on summer afternoons, and reading aloud in the hammock
afterward to rest. When winter came she suddenly decided that school
and study were worth while, brought up all her averages, and made up
her mind to try for college. Skating and the gymnasium made her a new
girl. And all this transformation, fortunately for her good, came
naturally and very rapidly through the influence of her companion. It
comes almost as quickly in the other direction. Nothing can be more
helpful to the shy, timid, self-conscious girl than the companionship
of one who will encourage her and help her take her place with others
in the social life of which she is a part.
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