The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental WomenCooper, Elizabeth
Religion
The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental Women
Cooper, Elizabeth
East Asia -- Social life and customs; Women -- East Asia
A wedding is a very gorgeous affair, being limited only by the means of
the contracting parties, but it is generally conceded that all Indians,
of whatever class of society they may be members, spend far too much
upon the nuptials of their children.
Each one of the five days has its especial religious rite. One ceremony
typifies the giving of the girl by the father to the husband and the
renunciation of his parental authority. On another day the husband
fastens the tali around his young wife’s neck, which is practically the
same as placing the marriage-ring upon the finger of the new bride. This
tali is a small gold ornament strung on a little cord composed of one
hundred and eight very fine threads closely twisted together and dyed
yellow with saffron. Before tying the tali it is taken to the guests,
both men and women, who bless it. Old ladies whose husbands are alive
are specially requested to bless the tali, in order to insure the couple
a long married life. This symbol of wifehood is tied with three knots,
thus trebly ensuring the marriage tie, and is never to be removed unless
the wearer is so unfortunate as to become a widow, when the cord is cut.
The most unkind thing one woman can say to another is, “May your tali be
cut!”
After the tying of this emblem the newly married couple walk three times
around a lighted fire, which is the ultimate binding of the marriage
contract, for there is no more solemn engagement than that which is
entered into in the presence of fire. Rice is thrown over the pair, and
they throw it upon each other, signalling that they hope to enjoy an
abundance of this world’s goods and a fruitful union. Rice is used at
weddings in nearly all Eastern countries as typifying prosperity and
fruitfulness, and it is perhaps from the Far East that we borrow our
custom of throwing rice upon the newly married pair.
Many Hindu women wear, in addition to the tali, an iron bracelet to
indicate their marriage state. Among the rich it is gilded and,
consequently, not easily distinguished from the many bracelets that
always cover the Indian lady’s arm.
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