The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental WomenCooper, Elizabeth
Religion
The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental Women
Cooper, Elizabeth
East Asia -- Social life and customs; Women -- East Asia
There is an immense amount of money going into India each year that
never gets into circulation, as the gold coins are strung upon chains or
melted to make the bracelets for the women and children. Life could be
made much more comfortable for the Indian peasant if he would turn the
money invested in jewellery for his womenfolk into comforts for the
home.
The Hindu woman has few legal rights. Any property which her husband
wishes to leave her must be given to her in his lifetime, as she cannot
inherit his estate, but she may claim maintenance from his heirs, and if
she should survive her son, she may become his legal heir. The male
relatives are supposed to provide maintenance for the women of the
family.
An outsider looking upon the Hindu home does not see where real union
can possibly exist between a husband and wife. This is especially true
at the present time, when nearly all the better class of India’s sons
are being educated, and are reading, listening, touching hands with the
outside world. The women of the middle and lower classes, except in rare
cases, are practically without education, few being able to read or
write. The signs point to the fact that they will not long remain in
this ignorant state, because the young men are demanding educated wives,
and a desire for education is abroad in the land, although an old
proverb says that to educate a woman is like placing a knife in the
hands of a monkey. The English Government is establishing schools for
girls in every town and village, and in Baroda enforced schooling is
demanded for girls as well as for boys. But because of the early
marriage of the girl, she has little opportunity of becoming a real
companion to her husband, as he may continue his studies for years,
while, when she becomes a wife, her schooldays are over.
I met a gentleman of about fifty years of age in the South of India who
asked me to call upon his wife, a young girl of seventeen years, who
became his bride at the age of twelve. She was not at all what the
average girl of seventeen years would be in England or America. She was
the polite hostess, with no trace of self-consciousness or gaucherie,
graceful in her every movement. She was exquisitely dressed and covered
with jewels. Large diamond clusters were in her ears, diamonds in each
nostril, and around her neck a chain of rubies with a large pendant of
pearls. Her manners were charming, and as we were parting she excused
herself for a moment then returned to the room with a small tray on
which was the red powder for the caste mark, betel-nut, fruit, and a
small bouquet of flowers. She came to each of us and bowed, then with
her right hand made the mark of wifehood upon our foreheads, and handed
us the betel-nut and flowers. This gracious and pretty service is one of
the many little kindly acts that are always performed by the hostess
herself, as it would not be polite to delegate it to a servant.
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