The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental WomenCooper, Elizabeth
Religion
The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental Women
Cooper, Elizabeth
East Asia -- Social life and customs; Women -- East Asia
When all these arts have had the desired effect and her roving eye has
alighted upon the man of her choice, the Burmese girl may have her days
of courtship. She can meet her sweetheart at pwés, those festive parties
that seem to occur every night in Burmah, at which she may have a stall
for selling tobacco, or long cheroots, or flowers. This keeping of a
stall is not lowering to a woman’s social status, and numbers of
well-to-do women set them up at all places where crowds are liable to
congregate. There may be a reason for this besides the economic one, as
it is said a stall or shop or booth within the bazaar is the quickest
way of attracting a desirable husband. In the smaller towns there is
scarcely a house where the women have not arranged a small shop for sale
of betel-nut, coco-nuts, little looking-glasses, toilet articles, or
cotton goods from Manchester. The profits of this little trade are given
as pin-money to the wife or daughters. The English say that the Burmese
woman is a better businessman than her husband, and that in driving a
sharp bargain her successes are far in advance of those of her less
aggressive husband.
[Illustration:
DANCING AT A VILLAGE FESTIVAL, BURMAH.
To face p. 183.]
Pagoda feasts offer exceptional opportunities for lovelorn swains, and
many young couples have found their future happiness when gazing into
Buddha’s eyes. Evening-time is courting-time in all the world,
especially in this country, which is too hot during the day to permit of
any useless expenditure of energy, even by an ardent lover. They also
say that the men of Burmah are influenced by the proverb that says: “In
the morning women are cross and peevish, in the middle of the day they
are testy and quarrelsome, but at night they are sweet and amiable.”
If the lover does not expect to meet his sweetheart at a festival or a
theatrical entertainment, he waits around until he thinks the old people
have retired for the night, and then with a friend or two as chaperons
he calls upon his adored one, and finds her with powdered face and
pretty dress awaiting him in the moonlit veranda. There is little
privacy in this courtship, because divisions between the rooms are often
only made of matting, and mothers in Burmah are proverbial for the
quickness of hearing when it concerns the courtship of their daughters.
There is no lovemaking as we know it—kissing, and holding of hands, and
embracing—which would be most shocking to the modest instincts of the
Burmese maiden. Yet love has signs, and finally father’s and mother’s
consent is asked, the dowry fixed, and the astrologer consulted, who
will tell them if a boy born on Monday and a girl on Wednesday may wed.
No matter how ardently the match is desired by the interested parties,
some unions, judged according to their birthdays, would be most unlucky.
For example:—
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