The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental WomenCooper, Elizabeth
Religion
The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental Women
Cooper, Elizabeth
East Asia -- Social life and customs; Women -- East Asia
Friday’s daughter
Didn’t oughter
Marry with a Monday’s son;
Should she do it
Both will rue it,
Life’s last lap will soon be run.
Each day of the week is guarded by an animal, and it naturally follows
that if a man was born on a day that was ruled by a serpent and a woman
on a day ruled by a mongoose, the serpent’s deadly enemy, they would
surely not live happily together. But if the parent’s consent is given,
the combination of birthdays are lucky, the dowry is satisfactory to all
concerned, then the propitious day must be found from the horoscope for
the actual wedding to take place. During June, July, August, and
September, the Buddhist Lent, all marriages are barred to the strict
followers of Buddha, and it would be a very unregenerate son or daughter
who would shock his old father and mother by daring to ask to marry
during this time. Marriage is a very precarious proceeding, because if
it takes place in certain months the couple will be rich, in other
months they will always love each other, while there are unfortunate
months that bring sickness and death to those tempting Hymen at this
time. Nevertheless, notwithstanding all the obstacles that seem to be
placed in the way of marriage, there are few spinsters in Burmah, and
virtually every man over twenty years of age has a wife.
The marriage ceremony is a strictly civil affair, no religious rite
entering into the performance. The friends meet at the house of the
bride’s parents, where a great feast has been prepared at the expense of
the bridegroom’s father, and the eating and drinking and publicity of
the affair make the marriage as binding as are any marriages in Burmah.
Contrary to all Eastern usages, the young couple take up their abode
with the bride’s parents instead of going to the home of the groom’s
people, which is the custom in India, China, and Japan. If the home roof
is too small to shelter the new family, they may build a new home for
themselves. This is not an expensive affair, as the houses are extremely
simple. They are practically all of one story, because of the Burman’s
aversion to any one walking over his head. The house is built on posts,
thus raising the floor seven or eight feet from the ground, which is
very desirable in rainy weather. It consists of two or three rooms and
an open balcony, where the family may sit of an evening or where the
daughter of the house may receive her lover, and not interrupt the
slumbers of father and mother, who have spread their sleeping-mats upon
the floor of the main living-room.
In the rainy season the cooking is done in one of the rooms, but in the
long, dry months the yard at the back of the house serves as kitchen. In
the smaller towns the roofs are thatched with palm-leaves or with grass,
but in the cities the ugly iron roofs are now seen, with here and there
a more pretentious roof of tiling.
Public-domain text, read in full here on John Shaqi.
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