The Hindoos as They Are: A Description of the Manners, Customs and the Inner Life of Hindoo Society in BengalSivachandra Vasu
Religion
The Hindoos as They Are: A Description of the Manners, Customs and the Inner Life of Hindoo Society in Bengal
Sivachandra Vasu
Hindus; India -- Social life and customs; Women -- India
Not content with depriving her of the best enjoyments of life which
society affords, and the laws of God sanction, by condemning her to a
state of perpetual widowhood, the great lawgiver--the unflinching foe of
freedom in females--has further enjoined the strict observance of
certain practices that add gall to her already overflowing cup of
misery. As has been observed before, she is restricted to one scanty
meal a day, always of the coarsest description, devoid of fish[112]
which is generally more esteemed by an _ayistree_ lady than any other
article of food in her bill of fare. She must religiously fast on every
_ekadossee_, twice a month, and on all other popular religious
celebrations. She must bare her body of all sorts of ornaments, even the
_iron_ and the _gold_ bangles, which once constituted the _summum bonum_
of her life. As an appropriate substitute for the gold and pearl
necklaces, she is enjoined to wear a _toolsee mala_ (a basilwood
chaplet), and count a _toolsee_ wood bead roll for the final rest of her
soul. She is prohibited from wearing any bordered clothes, a _thayti_
being her proper garment; she is not permitted to daub her forehead with
_sidoor_, (vermillion), once the pride of her life when her lord was
alive; she is forbidden to use any bazar-made article of food, and to
complete the catalogue of restrictions she sometimes shaves her head
purposely that she may have an ugly appearance and thereby more
effectually repel the inroads of a wicked, seductive world.
If she have any children to nurture, the happy circumstance affords a
great relief to her wearisomely monotonous life. Day and night she
watches them with great care, and looks forward to their progressive
development with intense anxiety, forgetting in the plenitude of her
solicitude her own forlorn condition. Should there be any mishap in
their case, it causes an irreparable break-down in her spirit, which is
for ever "sicklied over with the pale cast of thought."
It is a painful fact that riches when not properly used have a tendency
to corrupt the minds of human beings, and lead them from the path of
virtue to that of vice. A wealthy widow who has the command of a long
purse more readily falls a prey to the temptations of the world than one
who, moving in an humbler sphere of life, has her mind almost wholly
engrossed with domestic cares, and the thoughts of a future state of
beatitude. "Verily," as Lord Lytton says, "in the domain of poverty
there is God's word."
Considering the endless round of hardship and self abnegations to which
she is inevitably doomed by a terrible stroke of fortune, "which scathes
and scorches her soul," it is cheering to reflect that she so often
shines brightest in adversity. Indeed she may be occasionally said "to
die ten times a day," but her incredible powers of patient endurance,
coupled with her high sense of female honor, are deserving of the
highest admiration.
FOOTNOTES:
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