The Hindoos as They Are: A Description of the Manners, Customs and the Inner Life of Hindoo Society in BengalSivachandra Vasu
Religion
The Hindoos as They Are: A Description of the Manners, Customs and the Inner Life of Hindoo Society in Bengal
Sivachandra Vasu
Hindus; India -- Social life and customs; Women -- India
It invariably takes place on the sixth day[50] of the increase of the
moon in the Bengali month of May, when ripe mangoes--the prince of
Indian fruits--are in full season. Then all the mothers-in-law in Bengal
are actually on the _qui vive_ to welcome their sons-in-law and turn a
new leaf in the chapter of their joys. A good son-in-law is emphatically
the most darling object of a Hindoo mother-in-law. She spares no
possible pains to please and satisfy him, even calling to her aid the
supernatural agency of charms. Ostensibly and even practically a Hindoo
mother-in-law loves her son-in-law more than her son, simply because the
son can shift for himself even if turned adrift in the wide world, but
the daughter is absolutely helpless, and the cruel institution of
perpetual widowhood, with its appalling amount of misery and risk,
renders her tenfold more so.
On this festive occasion, the son-in-law is invited to spend the day and
night at his father-in-law's house. No pains or expense is spared to
entertain him. When he comes in the morning, the first thing he has to
do is to go into the female apartment, bow his head down in honor of his
mother-in-law, and put on the floor a few Rupees, say five or ten,
sometimes more if newly married. The food consists of all the delicacies
of the season, and both the quantity and variety are often too great to
be done justice to. The perfection of Hindoo culinary art is
unreservedly brought into requisition on such occasions. Surrounded by a
galaxy of beauty, the youthful son-in-law is restrained by a sense of
shame from freely partaking of the feast specially provided for him. The
earnest importunity of the females urges the bashful youth to eat more
and more. If this be his first visit as son-in-law he finds himself
quite bewildered in the midst of superfluity and superabundance of
preparations. Many are the tricks employed to outwit him. With all his
natural shrewdness, and forewarned by the females of his own family, he
is no match for either the playful humor and frolics of the young,
sprightly ladies. Sham articles of food cleverly dressed in close
imitation of fruits and sweetmeats are offered him without detection in
the full blaze of day, and the attempt to partake of them excites bursts
of laughter and merriment. The utmost female ingenuity is here brought
into play to call forth amusement at the expense of the duped youth. In
their own way, the good-natured females are mistresses of jokes and
jests, and nothing pleases them better than to find the youthful new
comer completely nonplused. This forms the favorite subject of their
talk long after the event. Shut up in the cage of a secluded zenana,
quite beyond the influence of the outside world, it is no wonder that
their minds and thoughts do not rise above the trifles of their own
narrow circle.
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