The Intermediate Sex: A Study of Some Transitional Types of Men and WomenCarpenter, Edward
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The Intermediate Sex: A Study of Some Transitional Types of Men and Women
Carpenter, Edward
Homosexuality; Sex
The need of information--the legitimate curiosity--of boys (and girls)
must be met, (1) partly by classes on physiology, (2) partly by private
talks and confidences between elder and younger, based on friendship.
With regard to (1) classes of this kind are already, happily, being
carried on at a few advanced schools, and with good results. And though
such classes can only go rather generally into the facts of motherhood
and generation they cannot fail, if well managed, to impress the young
minds, and give them a far grander and more reverent conception of the
matter than they usually gain.
But (2) although some rudimentary teaching on sex and lessons in
physiology may be given in classes, it is obvious that further
instruction and indeed any real help in the conduct of life and morals
can only come through very close and tender confidences between the
elder and the younger, such as exist where there is a strong friendship
to begin with. It is obvious that effective help _can_ only come in
this way, and that this is the only way in which it is desirable that
it should come. The elder friend in this case would, one might say,
naturally be, and in many instances may be, the parent, mother or
father--who ought certainly to be able to impress on the clinging child
the sacredness of the relation. And it is much to be hoped that parents
will see their way to take this part more freely in the future. But
for some unexplained reason there is certainly often a gulf of reserve
between the (British) parent and child; and the boy who is much at school
comes more under the influence of his elder companions than his parents.
If, therefore, boys and youths cannot be trusted and encouraged to form
decent and loving friendships with each other, and with their elders
or juniors--in which many delicate questions could be discussed and
the tradition of sensible and manly conduct with regard to sex handed
down--we are indeed in a bad plight and involved in a vicious circle from
which escape seems difficult.
And so (we think) the need of attachment must also be met by full
recognition of it, and the granting of it expression within all
reasonable limits; by the dissemination of a good ideal of friendship
and the enlistment of it on the side of manliness and temperance. Is it
too much to hope that schools will in time recognise comradeship as a
regular institution--considerably more important, say, than “fagging”--an
institution having its definite place in the school life, in the games
and in the studies, with its own duties, responsibilities, privileges,
etc., and serving to ramify through the little community, hold it
together, and inspire its members with the two qualities of heroism and
tenderness, which together form the basis of all great character?
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