Poor -- New York (State) -- New York; Social settlements
The very elementary necessity of space and place for privacy in taking a
bath is exceptional. For space, place and light are necessary. A very
bright woman, perfectly familiar with the limitations of the tenement-house
homes, once said to the writer: "The truth is they cannot be clean if they
are decent." A cruel truth which was brought forcibly to the remembrance of
the writer one winter afternoon in an East Side home, where a mother was
trying to bring up a family to the best of her ability. When the caller
went into the living-room of the family a tub stood at the side of the
stove, in which was the youngest daughter, a girl about eight; a brother of
ten and his boy friend of twelve or fourteen years were playing checkers on
the other side of the room. The mother was ironing. There was no
consciousness of embarrassment shown by the children. The mother was
ashamed, not at the exposure, but at being found out in permitting such an
exposure. She was a member of a club where the training of children was a
constant theme. The necessity of physical cleanliness, its relation to
health, she had grasped, and her children profited by it. The relation
between privacy and morals she had not grasped. It was as though a veil
had fallen from her eyes as she looked at her daughter of eight standing
naked before the two boys. Whether such a thing ever occurred again the
caller does not know; that the mother never forgave the caller for finding
her out she does know. The family had three bedrooms, but none would permit
the placing of a washstand in them. One was the passageway from front to
rear, for the family occupied a floor, but could afford only one fire.
Privacy is almost impossible in the tenement-house home. One bedroom is
usually the passageway to the next, if there are two, or both bedrooms are
passageways from front to rear of the home, and must be used by all the
family. Privacy is impossible in these rooms, and there are thousands of
just such apartments. Children must grow up in them subject to the
limitations, restrictions and exposures their walls compel. This division
of space must fix standards of reserve, of privacy, of social life. No
amount of love, not even of intelligence, can save the children from the
evils such division of space imposes on family life. It deadens the
sensibilities. The insidious effects of this is not always realized, even
by the intelligent parents who accept them as inevitable.
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