Poor -- New York (State) -- New York; Social settlements
The second generation of this type of thrifty families rarely carry the
habits of thrift of their parents into their home-making. The new financial
freedom is a novelty, and presents in itself enjoyment that the new
home-makers use. Here and there is a recovery from the danger of
extravagance by a young couple, but the recovery is rarely so complete as
to repeat the restrictions that the thrift of the parents compelled in
their homes. The new generation demand better clothes and better furniture.
Food and rent are regulated to meet these demands.
One stands appalled sometimes at the degree of vitality, the hope and the
cheerfulness that prevail in the homes protected only by the muscles of one
man; what they can buy representing all that the home may have. There is no
spirit of recklessness; there is no failure to comprehend the slight
protection a husband and father can give, though he be skillful; but there
is a sublime confidence in the future. Though familiar with suffering, if
not personally, then sympathetically, with full knowledge of what sickness
and death bring to other unprotected homes, such men and women, and there
are thousands, live from youth to and through age cheerfully, happily,
without any financial safeguard except against Potter's Field. This weekly
insurance is kept up; the family live cheerfully, gayly, sometimes to the
end.
[Illustration: A MEETING OF NEIGHBORS.]
One result of doling out small sums to young wage-earners, whether thrift
or necessity is responsible, is disastrous, especially disastrous for young
girls. It has seemed to the writer that if mothers and fathers could be
brought to a realizing sense of its dangers, they would endure hunger
rather than have their daughters exposed to it. After all, it could be
averted by making a division of the money spent for dress. Girls are often
dressed out of all proportion to the sums they earn, if a fair division of
their wages were made, if the dignity of the daughters was protected by any
degree of independence financially. Of course this disproportionate use of
money is due to false standards that will only be regulated when the people
on salaries learn to universally live true to the law of proportion in
their expenditures.
It seems to be a fixed idea that a girl is dependent on invitations from
young men for her social pleasures. If she is not invited, it is not only
her misfortune, but her fault; she should be more attractive. On the other
hand, the young man is scarcely any better off than the young girl
financially, yet he expects, and his world expects, that he shall bear, not
only his own social expenses, but those of at least one girl. His impulse
is to be chivalrous, for chivalry is not regulated by income nor deadened
by pennilessness.
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