The literature of kissing : $b gleaned from history, poetry, fiction, and anecdoteBombaugh, Charles C. (Charles Carroll)
History
The literature of kissing : $b gleaned from history, poetry, fiction, and anecdote
Bombaugh, Charles C. (Charles Carroll)
Kissing
In a curious book published in London in 1694, entitled “The Ladies’
Dictionary; being a General Entertainment for the Fair Sex,” the author,
who deals with the fashions of the time, remarks under the article
“Kissing,” as follows:
“But kissing and drinking both are now grown (it seems) to be a greater
custom amongst us than in those days with the Romans. Nor am I so austere
to forbid the use of either, both which, though the one in surfeits, the
other in adulteries, may be abused by the vicious; yet contrarily at
customary meetings and laudable banquets, they by the nobly disposed, and
such whose hearts are fixed upon honor, may be used with much modesty and
continence.”
This osculatory custom seems to have disappeared about the time of
the Restoration. Peter Heylin says it had for some time before been
unfashionable in France. When he visited that country, in 1625, he
thought it strange and uncivil that the ladies should turn away from the
proffer of a salutation; and he indignantly exclaims “that the chaste and
innocent kiss of an English gentlewoman is more in heaven than their best
devotions.” Its abandonment in England might have formed part of that
French code of politeness which Charles II. introduced on his return.
Apropos of this, we may here quote a letter of Rustic Sprightly to the
“Spectator” (No. 240):
“MR. SPECTATOR,
“I am a country gentleman, of a good, plentiful estate, and
live as the rest of my neighbors, with great hospitality. I
have been ever reckoned among the ladies the best company in
the world, and have access as a sort of favorite. I never came
in public but I saluted them, though in great assemblies, all
around; where it was seen how genteelly I avoided hampering my
spurs in their petticoats, whilst I moved amongst them; and
on the other side how prettily they curtsied and received me,
standing in proper rows, and advancing as fast as they saw
their elders, or their betters, dispatched by me. But so it
is, MR. SPECTATOR, that all our good breeding is of late lost
by the unhappy arrival of a courtier, or town gentleman, who
came lately among us. This person, whenever he came into a
room, made a profound bow and fell back, then recovered with
a soft air, and made a bow to the next, and so to one or two
more, and then took the gross of the room by passing by them
in a continued bow till he arrived at the person he thought
proper particularly to entertain. This he did with so good a
grace and assurance that it is taken for the present fashion;
and there is no young gentlewoman within several miles of this
place has been kissed ever since his first appearance among us.
We country gentlemen cannot begin again and learn these fine
and reserved airs; and our conversation is at a stand till we
have your judgment for or against kissing by way of civility or
salutation, which is impatiently expected by your friends of
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