The psycho-analytic study of the familyFlugel, J. C. (John Carl)
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The psycho-analytic study of the family
Flugel, J. C. (John Carl)
Families; Marriage; Parent and child; Psychoanalysis
As regards the negative or reactionary aspects of the hate attitude, it
is pretty clear that the influences which tend to produce repression
or inhibition of the hate are in the main of two kinds:--(1) "moral"
influences, such as the acceptance of a code of ethics, or of a tradition,
with which parent hatred is incompatible; (2) the co-existence with the
hate of a genuine love, admiration or respect towards the parent who is
hated.
[Sidenote: "Moral" influences]
As regards the ultimate psychological nature of the first of these
factors, we are face to face with a problem concerning which there is
at present no very great degree of certainty or unanimity, _i. e._ the
problem of the general nature of the forces of repression which inhibit
the immoral or anti-social tendencies of the mind. Freud[222] is inclined
to lay stress upon the impulses centering round the self (though more
especially in connection with the repression of the sexual trends);
others, like McCurdy[223] Trotter[224] and Hart[225], emphasize the
importance of the gregarious tendencies in this connection. Whatever may
be their ultimate basis in the mind, there can be little doubt however
that these moral forces on the whole increase with advancing culture,
thus tending always to substitute an indirect or negative for the more
primitive direct or positive expression of the hate attitude towards the
parents.
[Sidenote: Love that conflicts with and represses hate]
As regards the second factor, the arousal of love in opposition to hate
is evidently dependent partly (a) upon the child's own innate capacities
for affection, tenderness and gratitude; partly (b) upon the extent to
which these capacities are awakened and called into play by a kind and
loving attitude on the part of the parent towards the child. As regards
these factors it seems very difficult to say in the present state of our
knowledge whether there has been any considerable or lasting change during
the later period of human development. The extent to which tender feelings
have been aroused between parents and children of the same sex (for it is
of course with the relations between these that we are chiefly concerned
here) has naturally varied from age to age and from one family system to
another; the intensity and frequency of these feelings being as a rule in
inverse proportion to the intensity of the hate attitude. Thus it is that
those times and places which have produced the minimum of hatred between
parents and children have also probably on the whole tended to bring about
the greatest degree of repression of such hatred as did still exist--the
repression being due to the influence of love tendencies which were
opposed to those of hate. Nevertheless it is not easy to bring forward
any evidence to show a general tendency towards increase of the tender
feelings with which we are here concerned. Savage parents in many cases
appear to exhibit a very considerable degree of affection towards their
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