The psycho-analytic study of the family — John Shaqi
The psycho-analytic study of the familyFlugel, J. C. (John Carl)
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The psycho-analytic study of the family
Flugel, J. C. (John Carl)
Families; Marriage; Parent and child; Psychoanalysis
The hate aspect of the Œdipus complex would thus seem normally to arise
in the first place as a consequence of the love aspect, the affection
felt by the child towards the parent of the opposite sex bringing about a
resentment at the presence of the other parent; this latter parent being
looked upon as a competitor for the affections of the loved parent and
a disturber of the peace of the family circle. But though in its origin
the hate aspect is thus usually a secondary phenomenon, it may under
suitable conditions grow to equal or even to excel in importance the love
aspect from which it in the first place arose. This is especially liable
to be the case when, in addition to the specific interference with the
love activities of the child, the parent in question causes more general
interference with the child's desires and activities, by adopting a
harsh, intolerant or inconsiderate attitude towards the child in their
everyday relations or as regards matters in which the child's interests
and ambitions are more especially concerned. To the envy and jealousy felt
towards a competitor and rival there is then added the hatred and desire
for rebellion against a tyrant and oppressor; and the complex emotions
thus aroused may engender a hostile sentiment of such intensity as, in
some cases, to constitute one of the dominant traits of character, not
only of childhood but of the whole of adult life.
[Sidenote: Hatred between brothers and sisters]
Only second in importance to the attitude of the child towards its parents
are its relations to its brothers and sisters. Under the conditions of
normal family life, brothers and sisters are, after the parents, the most
important persons in the environment of the young child, and it is but
natural that these persons should be among the earliest objects of the
developing love and hate emotions of the child. Whereas, however, in the
child's relations towards its parents, love would seem to be the emotion
that is usually first evoked, in its dealings with the other junior
members of the family, the opposite emotion of hate is in most cases
the primary reaction. This fact can be easily explained as to a great
extent a natural consequence of the necessary conditions of family life.
Brothers and sisters possess claims upon the attention and affection of
the loved parent (especially when that parent is the mother) which are
apt to conflict seriously with one another and may on occasion be felt
by the respective claimants to be almost if not quite as irksome and
exorbitant as those of the other parent, whose competition with the child
in this respect we have already noted. From this source there frequently
arise feelings of violent jealousy between brothers and sisters, and
the attitude of hostility thus evoked may be increased, or at any rate
prevented from disappearing, by the fact that children of the same family
have to share not only the affection of their parents but, to some extent
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