The psycho-analytic study of the family — John Shaqi
The psycho-analytic study of the familyFlugel, J. C. (John Carl)
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The psycho-analytic study of the family
Flugel, J. C. (John Carl)
Families; Marriage; Parent and child; Psychoanalysis
at least, their material possessions and enjoyments also.
The works of psycho-analytic writers contain numerous examples of such
brother and sister hatreds in early years. As a rule the younger child
resents the advantages and privileges of which it finds the older children
already in possession; it finds itself in many respects compelled to
submit to the superior size and strength and experience of the older
children, whom it is therefore inclined to regard as tyrants, the only
refuge from whose brutal power lies in appeal to the still higher adult
powers who control the destinies of the nursery. Older children, on their
part, are inclined to regard any new arrival in the family circle as an
intruder upon their own preserves and a competitor for their own cherished
rights, privileges and possessions. Hence the announcement of such a new
arrival is in many cases greeted, in the first instance, with anything
but joy, and the wish is often expressed that the intruder should depart
again whence he came. Indeed it would seem probable from some cases that
not a little of the interest displayed by children in the processes of
conception, gestation and (more especially) birth, is due to the fact
that these processes are intimately connected with the appearance of a
new brother or sister to disturb the peaceful monopoly of the family
possessions and affections which the elder children have hitherto enjoyed.
In other cases, again, the resentment felt towards the new intruder may be
so great that it may even find expression in an actual attempt on the part
of an older child to do away with the younger one[14] should a convenient
opportunity for this present itself.
[Sidenote: Love between brothers and sisters]
Although jealousy and hatred are thus apt to be the first emotional
reactions of brothers and sisters towards one another, there can be
no doubt that a brother or sister may from the beginning be an object
of affection, the object love of the child being directed towards its
brother or sister in much the same manner as towards its parent. This is
much more likely to happen in relation to an elder than in relation to a
younger member of the family and occurs most frequently when there is a
considerable difference in age between the children concerned, so that
interests and desires no longer conflict and overlap to the same extent
as they do in the case of children of approximately equal age. The most
favourable conditions for the direction of a child's object love in this
manner are to be found in those large working-class families, where an
elder sister frequently takes over some of the attributes of the mother as
regards the younger children. In such a case the feelings of the younger
child (particularly if that child be a boy) towards its elder sister are
usually of an affectionate nature from the very start.
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