The psycho-analytic study of the familyFlugel, J. C. (John Carl)
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The psycho-analytic study of the family
Flugel, J. C. (John Carl)
Families; Marriage; Parent and child; Psychoanalysis
It is not however free from certain ethical difficulties of its own. Thus,
it might seem at first as though the care and attention that a person
of mature age may bestow upon his parents is but a just and reasonable
return for the benefits which he himself received from these parents in
his infancy and youth. Biologically however the cases are not similar.
The care of parents for their young is necessary for the perpetuation of
the race. The care bestowed upon the aged and infirm who are no longer
able to provide adequately for themselves is of no direct value in the
struggle for existence; it may even be a disadvantage in this struggle,
a luxury that can only be afforded when the struggle is relaxed or when
all competing individuals or races have adopted the practice. Further,
from the point of view of the race, the real equivalent that is given in
return for the benefits received from parents in early life lies in the
corresponding benefits bestowed upon the next generation in its turn, and
the double burden of maintaining and caring for both the young and the old
may be definitely beyond the powers of many.
[Sidenote: Satisfactory family conditions conduce to happiness in old age]
Fortunately, it but rarely happens, even at the extreme end of a long
life, that the old are entirely dependent upon the care and efforts of
others. In a civilised society they usually remain permanently able
to provide for a considerable part of their immediate needs, and the
sounder and more stable is their own and the general economic condition,
the more is this the case. On the whole it is perhaps rather on the
psychological than on the strictly economic side that they will be in
need of assistance, and here it is that the principles that have emerged
from the study of the facts and tendencies with which we have been
concerned in this book may prove of use. In so far as family life is able
to proceed and develop on the lines which a true morality based on sound
psychological principles and an adequate psychological knowledge would
seem to indicate as most desirable, it should be possible for the older
members of the family to participate freely in the joys and satisfactions
which they may still find within the family circle and to escape the
danger of being excluded from these satisfactions, by the disappointments
and misunderstandings, or by the unhappiness and bitterness that the
faulty development of the family so frequently, and so disastrously,
brings in its train. The old tend always to live to some extent
vicariously: they find a great part of their interests and their pleasures
in the contemplation of the doings of others who are younger than
themselves: their own lives are projected into those of their children
and their grandchildren, and by means of this projection they enjoy the
most natural compensation for the decline of their own personal interests
and capacities. If they have found this compensation, it may well be said
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