The Superstition of DivorceChesterton, G. K. (Gilbert Keith)
Religion
The Superstition of Divorce
Chesterton, G. K. (Gilbert Keith)
Divorce
And nobody who notes those details, or
considers those faint hints of reason, can doubt for a moment that
masses of these men and women are now simply using divorce in the spirit
of free-love. They are very seldom the sort of people who have once
fallen tragically into the wrong place, and have now found their way
triumphantly to the right place. They are almost always people who are
obviously wandering from one place to another, and will probably leave
their last shelter exactly as they have left their first. But it seems
to amuse them to make again, if possible in a church, a promise they
have already broken in practice and almost avowedly disbelieve in
principle.
In face of this headlong fashion, it is really reasonable to ask the
divorce reformers what is their attitude towards the old monogamous
ethic of our civilisation; and whether they wish to retain it in
general, or to retain it at all. Unfortunately even the sincerest and
most lucid of them use language which leaves the matter a little
doubtful. Mr. E. S. P. Haynes is one of the most brilliant and most
fair-minded controversialists on that side; and he has said, for
instance, that he agrees with me in supporting the ideal of indissoluble
or, at least, of undissolved marriage. Mr. Haynes is one of the few
friends of divorce who are also real friends of democracy; and I am sure
that in practice this stands for a real sympathy with the home,
especially the poor home. Unfortunately, on the theoretic side, the word
“ideal” is far from being an exact term, and is open to two almost
opposite interpretations. For many would say that marriage is an ideal
as some would say that monasticism is an ideal, in the sense of a
counsel of perfection. Now certainly we might preserve a conjugal ideal
in this way. A man might be reverently pointed out in the street as a
sort of saint, merely because he was married. A man might wear a medal
for monogamy; or have letters after his name similar to V.C. or D.D.;
let us say L.W. for “Lives With His Wife,” or “N.D.Y.” for “Not Divorced
Yet.” We might, on entering some strange city, be struck by a stately
column erected to the memory of a wife who never ran away with a
soldier, or the shrine and image of a historical character, who had
resisted the example of the man in the “New Witness” ballade in bolting
with the children’s nurse. Such high artistic hagiology would be quite
consistent with Mr. Haynes’ divorce reform; with re-marriage after three
years, or three hours. It would also be quite consistent with Mr.
Haynes’ phrase about preserving an ideal of marriage. What it would not
be consistent with is the perfectly plain, solid, secular and social
usefulness which I have here attributed to marriage. It does not create
or preserve a natural institution, normal to the whole community, to
balance the more artificial and even more arbitrary institution of the
state; which is less natural even if it is equally necessary. It does
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