The Traditional Games of England, Scotland, and Ireland (Vol 2 of 2): With Tunes, Singing-Rhymes, and Methods of Playing etc.Gomme, Alice Bertha
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The Traditional Games of England, Scotland, and Ireland (Vol 2 of 2): With Tunes, Singing-Rhymes, and Methods of Playing etc.
Gomme, Alice Bertha
Folklore -- Great Britain; Games -- Great Britain
In this game, said in Lancashire to be the “oldest play of all,” judging
both by the words and method of playing, we have, I believe, a distinct
survival or remembrance of the tribal marriage—marriage at a period when
it was the custom for men of a clan to seek wives from the girls of
another clan, both clans belonging to one tribe. The game is a purely
marriage game, and marriage in a matter-of-fact way. Young men of a clan
or village arrive at the abode of another clan for the purpose of
seeking wives, probably at a feast or fair time. The maidens are
apparently ready and expecting their arrival. They are as willing to
become wives as the dukes are to become husbands. It is not marriage by
force or capture, though the triumphant carrying off of a wife appears
in some versions. It is exogamous marriage custom, after the tribe had
settled down and arranged their system of marriage in lieu of a former
more rude system of capture. The suggested depreciation of the girls,
and their saucy rejoinders, may be looked upon as so much good-humoured
chaff and banter exchanged between the two parties to enhance each
other’s value, and to display their wit. While it does not follow that
the respective parties were complete strangers to one another, these
lines may indicate that each individual wished “to have as good a look
round as possible” before accepting the offer made. It will be seen that
there is no mention of “love” in the game, nor is there any individual
courtship between boy and girl. The marriage formula does not appear,
nor is there any sign that a “ceremony” or “sanction” to conclude the
marriage was necessary, nor does kissing occur in the game.
There is evidence of the tribal marriage system in the survivals of
exogamy and marriage by capture occasionally to be noted in traditional
local custom. Thus the custom recorded by Chambers (_Book of Days_, i.
722) of the East Anglians (Suffolk), where whole parishes have
intermarried to such an extent that almost everybody is related to or
connected with everybody else, is distinctly a case in point, the
intermarrying of “parishes” for a long series of years necessarily
resulting in close inter-relationship. One curious effect of this is
that no one is counted as a “relation” beyond first cousins; for if
“relationship” went further than that it might “almost as well include
the whole parish.” The old proverb (also from East Anglia):
“To change the name, and not the letter,
Is a change for the worse, and not for the better;”
that is, it is unlucky for a woman to marry a man whose surname begins
with the same letter as her own, also indicates a survival of the
necessity of marrying into another clan or tribal family.
Public-domain text, read in full here on John Shaqi.
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