If a mother carries on her work at home and must put it away in order to
be beside the sick-bed of her child, or to make those arrangements which
assure domestic comfort, or to help her husband, then she feels that her
book or her picture suffers, that the activity which binds her more
intimately to the home relaxes for a time the intimacy of her connection
with her work. One can by day carry on a dull industrial task, and by
night produce an achievement of the soul; but one cannot let one’s soul
radiate in one direction without impairing its energy in another. A work
needs exclusive devotion. And this is, viewed externally, difficult to
attain in joint action; viewed from within, it requires a renunciation
that in the case of a loving soul evokes a continual inner struggle. For
that reason, also, literature with woman as its subject has for some
decades been filled with the great conflict of modern woman’s life: the
conflict between vocation and parents, between vocation and husband,
between vocation and child. Certainly the family has often been a
torture chamber for individuality, as a consequence of laws and customs,
which the future will regard as we now do the rack and the thumbscrew.
But nature is more severe than law and custom when she confronts us with
a choice which, however it may turn out, tears a piece from our heart.
And now neither custom nor man demands of woman the “sacrifice of the
personality.” This sacrifice is required only by the law of limitations
which rules over us all.
The creative man or the man working objectively must often condemn the
emotional side of his personality to a partial development; he must for
the sake of his work renounce many family values important for this
emotional side of his being. Even if shorter working hours could
partially diminish this cultural offering, the _inner_ conflict, for the
man or the woman, is not settled thereby.
Even if a man, in the consciousness of his wife’s endowment of talent,
assumed a number of domestic duties, especially those pertaining to the
children, the inner conflict would still continue. And this conflict is
in no way solved by the amaternal theory that the personal life must be
placed above the instinct life. For, as has been emphasised, the choice
is not between the personal and the instinct life, but between the
intellectual and the emotional side of woman’s personality. And the
solution of this choice has not been discovered by the amaternals, who
would combine commercial work with marriage and maternity. Women who
remain unmarried or who give up commercial activity which they cannot
carry on in the home, have not _settled the conflict_ either, but have
only reduced its difficulties.
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