You will find to-day, among women seventy or eighty years of age, one or
another type of that fine culture which the gifted single woman, in
comfortable circumstances, could attain in the previous century. Her
home, especially if it was an estate in the country, became a cultural
fireside which radiated light and heat for relatives and friends. The
lesser gifted disseminated, each according to her nature, comfort or
discomfort, yet could in extremity at least be sure of the homage of
their future heirs. Toward those dependent upon them, these women were
sometimes kind, sometimes indifferent, sometimes hard: the feeling of
social responsibility was an unknown idea to them. The _penniless_
single women, on the contrary, were found either in one of the
“respectable” positions which, however, brought with them a multitude of
humiliations: as governess, companion, housekeeper—in Germany also as
maid of honour at one of the numerous small courts—or in some charitable
institution for gentle folks, an asylum for _pauvres honteuses_; but
most frequently in the corner of the home of a relative. This corner was
at times the warmest and most confidential in the whole house, that
corner which the children sought for stories and sweetmeats; the youth,
to find an embrace in which he could pour forth his grief, an ear which
listened to his most beautiful dreams. But it happened more frequently
that the “aunt” looked upon as a “necessary evil” was in reality that
very thing. Humiliated and embittered, she became ingenious in making
those about her suffer for her afflictions. Before they became
hopelessly old, the “aunts” were the laughing stock of the young through
their efforts, in the eleventh hour, to reach the “peaceful haven of
matrimony”; and they themselves looked with envious eyes upon the good
fortune of the young. We meet the unmarried woman of that time at her
best as trusty servant who shared the cares, the joys, and the sorrows
of the family and, in her garret chamber, of which she could be certain
to the day of her death, she looked back upon a rich life lived
vicariously. Not infrequently, she rejected a marriage proposal in order
to stay with her beloved master and mistress to whom she knew she was
indispensable. The superfluous women previously mentioned would have
thrown themselves into the arms of Beelzebub had he come as suitor. When
the years passed, when neither their desire for activity nor the thirst
of the heart nor of the senses was quenched, then not infrequently
insanity conjured up for these lonely women a life-content for which
they had longed in vain. To-day, however, we have for the position which
the expression, “a forsaken old maid,” betokens an entirely new type:
“the glorified spinster,” as the joyous, active, independent unmarried
woman is called by the people among whom she first became a reality.
Among these women, independent through their work, useful to society,
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