This singular affair has never been satisfactorily explained. It is
evident that Charles Wesley and Mr. Whitefield for some cause encouraged
the marriage of Mrs. Murray with Mr. Bennett; but what their motive
could have been is not known. Several reasons have been given, but none
seem worthy of the men. Whatever their motive, it must be
acknowledged to have been entirely unjustifiable. The conduct of the
lady was equally inexplicable, and must ever remain so.
In this trying affair we cannot but admire the conduct of Mr. Wesley.
Knowing the part that Mr. Whitefield had taken in the matter, he went
the next morning to hear him preach, and speaks in high terms of his
sermon. The day following he preached himself at Leeds in the morning,
and in the afternoon met Mr. and Mrs. Bennett, and of the meeting he
writes to a friend, "Such a scene I think you never saw." They never met
again, except in London in 1788, when Mr. Wesley was eighty-five years
of age, and when Mrs. Bennett had been a widow for nearly twenty-nine
years. The meeting was brief, and no mention was made of former years.
Mr. Bennett was treated by Mr. Wesley with the utmost kindness. He,
however, became an enemy of Mr. Wesley, withdrew from the Connection,
and joined the Calvinists. He lived ten years, and died, leaving Mrs.
Bennett a widow with five children, the eldest not eight years old. She
lived a widow for nearly forty-four years. She subsequently returned to
the Wesleyan Methodists, held class meetings in her house, and had the
reputation of being a woman of excellent character and deep piety. She
died February 23, 1803. Her last words were, "Glory be to thee, my God;
peace thou givest." Dr. Bunting preached her funeral sermon. Whoever
reads Mr. Tyerman's account of these events should also read Dr. Rigg's
_Living Wesley_, in order to get an unbiased account of this
transaction.
Mr. Wesley, baffled in his first attempt, and still believing it was his
duty to marry, made a second effort; and this time he offered his hand
to Mrs. Vazeille, the widow of a London merchant. She readily accepted
the proposal, and the marriage was at once consummated. Says a recent
writer, "He married a widow, and caught a tartar." She was a lady of
independent fortune, with four children. Mr. Wesley declined to have
anything to do with her wealth, and had it all settled upon herself and
her children.
She was a woman of good standing in society, and was supposed to be a
suitable person for the position she assumed. She was agreeable in
person and quite faultless in manner, and could easily make herself
useful to all classes. But appearances are said to be deceptive; at
least it proved so in this case. She seems to have possessed a temper
which, when aroused, was utterly uncontrollable.
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