Not four months of married life had passed before she began to complain
of her husband. Before their marriage she agreed that he should not be
expected to travel a mile less, or preach one sermon less, than before
their union. But now she began to complain of everything--long
journeys, bad roads, and poor fare. She was not willing to remain at
home, for then she was without the attention she had a right to receive;
and when he was at home he was preaching two or three times a day,
visiting the sick, looking after the societies, and carrying on
extensive correspondence.
From fancying herself neglected by her husband she became jealous of
him--a most absurd and insane idea. But on this her insanity knew no
bounds. She is said to have traveled a hundred miles in order to
intercept him at some town, and watch from a window to ascertain who
might be in the carriage with him. She went so far as to open his
private letters and abstract his papers and place them in the hands of
those who would use them to his damage. She would add to his
letters--usually those from his female correspondents--to make them
appear to contain words of questionable character. She used the
newspapers to blacken his reputation. She went so far at times as to lay
violent hands upon him, tear his hair, and otherwise abuse him. Said Mr.
Hampson (who was not one of Mr. Wesley's warmest friends) to his son one
day: "Jack, I was once on the point of committing murder. When I was in
the north of Ireland I went into a room, and found Mrs. Wesley flaming
with fury. Her husband was on the floor, where she had been trailing
him by the hair of his head; she herself was still holding in her hand
venerable locks which she had plucked up by the roots. I felt," said the
gigantic Hampson, "as though I could have knocked the soul out of her."
Even Southey says: "Fain would she have made him, like Mark Antony, give
up all for love; and, being disappointed in that hope, she tormented him
in such a manner by her outrageous jealousy and abominable temper that
she deserved to be classed in a triad with Xantippe and the wife of Job
as one of the three bad wives." But finally she gathered up a quantity
of his journals and other papers and left him, never to return. The only
record which the good man makes is this: "I did not forsake her; I did
not dismiss her; I will not recall her."
Wesley may not have been in all respects in this matter faultless. But
no one could ever affirm that he was wanting in genuine affection.
Charles Wesley, who knew the inwardness of all John's domestic troubles,
affirms that "nothing could surpass my brother's patience with his
perverse, peevish spouse."
Mrs. Wesley died in 1781, and the church people had it inscribed upon
her tombstone that she was "a woman of exemplary piety." "But," says the
late Professor Sheppard, "you know a tombstone is like a corporation--it
has no body to be burned, and no soul to be damned."
CHAPTER X.
WESLEY'S PERSECUTIONS.
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