Through These Eyes: The courageous struggle to find meaning in a life stressed with cancer — John Shaqi
Through These Eyes: The courageous struggle to find meaning in a life stressed with cancerIsaacson, Lauren Ann
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Through These Eyes: The courageous struggle to find meaning in a life stressed with cancer
Isaacson, Lauren Ann
Cancer -- Patients -- Biography; Isaacson, Lauren Ann, 1961-1986
It seemed impossible to think that I may never see Norm again. I
thought about the kite that we bought at a grocery store and flew in
the spring gusts until it was a mere speck in the blue sky. I
remembered our discussion about the importance of seat belts, after
which a love-smitten, one-armed Don Juan nearly forced us off the road.
I thought about the many times he pitched to me, saying, "Keep your
eye on the ball!," and how we rumbled up the street to K Mart on
low-budget shopping sprees. I did not have Tracy's address, so letters
would be a pointless effort. My mind began to create images,
concocting chance encounters and elaborate dialogues. I pictured his
tall form striding from a store into the sun-bathed parking lot; I
would run to him despite the protests of my parents. The image would
dissolve and another would take its place. This time, I saw him while
I was alone; I was able to obtain his phone number and address, and
planned to keep in touch. Again the fantasy would fade. I wondered
fearfully whether the years would so change his facial appearance that
I would fail to recognize him. Nothing and no one in life was immune
to change; features, health, relationships...everything could bloom or
wither in an instant.
Many thoughts flooded my mind during the next week. I considered my
parents and their steadfast values, and understood their torment.
Their son was about to embark on a lifestyle which they viewed as
morally wrong. After 20 years of guidance, Norm's action was
translated as an injustice done to them. Often I heard my dad describe
an incident, remarking, "If the kid really loved his parents, he
wouldn't have done (it) out of respect for them."
I had been raised under the same school of thought, and, until my views
had been tested, my stance on various issues usually echoed those of my
parents. Following the incident with my brother, however, I could no
longer believe that cohabitation without marriage was so wrong that the
act should tempt a parent to disown his son, especially if the two
cohabitants loved each other. Had Norm been a promiscuous lout who
flitted from one woman to the next merely for the purpose of filling
his primal needs, I would have agreed that his irresponsibility
demanded punitive action.
As I reflected over my silent disagreements, I wondered why Norm and
Tracy couldn't get married. If their life was to be shared, why didn't
they just marry to please society? Sure, the legality may only have
been a grand joke to Tracy, but if it saved certain relationships, was
it not worth the trouble? Moreover, Norm had always avoided involving
himself in a scene which would direct undue attention. I found the
current circumstances rather odd and out of character, for "shacking
up" was a relatively new phenomenon to strike the midwest. I had no
answers, and my questions had no ear to rest upon. It was best not to
dwell on that which I could not hope to change.
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