When You Don't Know Where to Turn: A Self-Diagnosing Guide to Counseling and TherapyBartlett, Steven J.
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When You Don't Know Where to Turn: A Self-Diagnosing Guide to Counseling and Therapy
Bartlett, Steven J.
Consumer education; Counseling; Psychotherapy
[18] Most evaluative studies of psychotherapy have attempted in some
way to take into account the judgment of clients. One study in
particular, however, has made clients' evaluations of their experiences
in therapy its main focus, in fact, for a book-length treatment. That
is Hans H. Strupp, Ronald E. Fox, and Ken Lessler, _Patients View Their
Psychotherapy_ (Baltimore: Johns Hopkins Press, 1969). Some of the
patient evaluations included here are based on transcripts from the
Strupp-Fox-Lessler study; they have been paraphrased and condensed for
use here.
After being in therapy, I have learned to accept myself more easily
and believe that many of the people whose opinions about me matter
to me also accept me for what I am. I have come to realize that
what I have in my life, in the way of my marriage, my children, my
work is what I have decided to settle with. It is easier and more
satisfying for me to do this than always to be fighting the present
and straining for things I haven't got.
I still have problems with my own self-confidence. I accept some
volunteer work at my church, in spite of these feelings of
self-doubt, believing that I really am mentally capable and feeling
that I can, in time, and with patience, overcome my feelings of
inadequacy.
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I now love my daughter without qualifications. I have much less
hostility toward my mother. I'm much less afraid now to feel
unpleasant emotions and feel less guilt than I did. I'm not afraid
to stand up for myself and say what I feel.
I feel more patient now with myself and with others. I lose my
temper much less often. I enjoy life much more, feel more content
and happy over small things. I'm much more aware now of the
feelings of others.
I didn't like being around people. Now I actually can enjoy their
company. Even parties do not make me nervous like they used to. I
am less inclined to condemn others when they are not like me, and I
find myself offering suggestions and advice less frequently.
The greatest change that therapy has brought me has been to help me
get my confidence again. I have gone through periods of grief
three times since I left therapy, when members of my family have
died. I do not feel I could have maintained a sense of balance
during these times if I had not had the experience of therapy. I
feel I am better able to trust my judgment now and can cope with
living more effectively.
I feel better about myself, though I do often still feel a sense of
guilt. My problems [having to do with a strong father who has
condemned the client because of her style of living and has cut off
relations with her] are still with me, but I feel that I have
learned to face life more squarely and head-on without so much
fear. I'm sure that therapy was the most important part of this
change.
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