Woman—through a man's eyeglassSalaman, Malcolm C. (Malcolm Charles)
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Woman—through a man's eyeglass
Salaman, Malcolm C. (Malcolm Charles)
Single women; Wives -- Anecdotes; Women -- Anecdotes; Women -- Social and moral questions
married, and the love-dream of the girl died in the arms of the husband.
How many ideals are shattered by the intimacy of marriage, simply
because the antenuptial love has been based upon fiction and
misunderstanding. If only a man and woman made their several motives
for marrying quite clear to one another, and were not so anxious to
preserve a veneer of romance up to the very altar, matrimony would
not be the terrible iconoclast it too often is. Unless it supplies
the true complement to a single life, of what value is it? It is all
very well to talk about individualism, but everything in the world is
relative. The wife is what the husband makes her, and _vice versâ_;
but the former is the more important consideration, since woman is
more dependent. Pray forgive me, ye Amazons of the platform, ye of the
Emancipated Sisterhood!
Mrs. Hearthside went to her husband with a soul yearning for poetry,
and he gave her the plainest prose. The soft speech and gentle ways
were for his patients, not for his wife. His domestic manner was as
brusque as his professional was persuasive and engaging. He had no
time to show his wife any of those little tender attentions which had
previously touched her, and had made her recognise that this man might
realise for her the dream of happiness which another had revealed to
her. On the contrary, he did not take long to teach her that life
was a scientific fact, specially intended to prove the value of the
medical profession, and of Dr. Hearthside in particular; that all
emotion was ridiculous, except in so far as it concerned a professional
diagnosis, and that the aim and end of domestic happiness was to keep
a comfortable home, and make a respectable show to invite patients.
And for this she had given up the freedom of her soul; for this she
had stopped all supplies of the love her nature needed. Henceforth her
heart must feed upon itself, for Mrs. Hearthside holds very select
views with regard to a wife’s duties. If a husband do not answer all
her spiritual longings, no other man must; if she cannot nestle her
heart against his for warmth and comfort, her heart must go separate,
cold, and lonely. Marriage has been a bitter disillusioning to her but
she must bear with it, she must hide her romance away in the recesses
of her memory, and live on the matter-of-fact of marriage, present a
brave front, and pretend not to care, until in time, perhaps, she will
delude herself into the belief that it is all the better so, at all
events for her husband, and certainly for her children.
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