Woman—through a man's eyeglassSalaman, Malcolm C. (Malcolm Charles)
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Woman—through a man's eyeglass
Salaman, Malcolm C. (Malcolm Charles)
Single women; Wives -- Anecdotes; Women -- Anecdotes; Women -- Social and moral questions
Among women, I venture to think, friendship is not temperamental, it is
an accomplishment; and, at the risk of bringing down upon my devoted
head an avalanche of feminine contradiction, I make bold to say that
real friendship, as understood by men, is rare between women, though
nearly every woman cherishes a “dearest friend.”
A woman’s “dearest friend” is her familiar gossip, her partisan, but
seldom, if ever, the companion of her soul, the true confidante of
her inner self. Of course, both she and her “dearest friend” would
indignantly repudiate this assertion, and vow that they severally tell
each other _everything_, that their confidence is mutual and complete;
but then dissimulation is so inherent in women that they are not aware
of it. They are not analysing creatures as a rule, and they would
as soon admit their natural dissimulation, or their incapacity for
friendship with their own sex, from a man’s point of view, as any of
us would own to lacking a sense of humour, or being no connoisseurs in
matters of art.
I believe that men can teach women friendship, though, perhaps, not
until they have learnt the great lesson of love, for which they have
a natural intuition. Then, women may be the friends of men, and very
true and enduring friends too; but between woman and woman I doubt, as
a rule, whether you would find the same kind of friendship as between
man and man, or even as between man and woman, for women seldom trust
each other entirely—of course, always taking into consideration the
necessary proof of exceptions. But of “dearest friends” there is no
lack—indeed some women occupy this position in a kind of wholesale
way. They make “dearest friendship” the business of their lives, and
prosecute it in quite a professional fashion; and, of course, those who
are “dearest friends” to a large _clientèle_ become obviously better
and more comprehensive gossips.
Mrs. Meanwell is one of these; she is a general favourite, and
carries with her an amiability as alluring as it is indiscriminate
and universal. As a “dearest friend,” therefore, she is in constant
and general demand, and consequently she is a veritable Pantechnicon
of personal gossip. This vocation has been hers since her earliest
schooldays, when she was the recipient of all the other little
girls’ confidences in rotation, and, though uniformly cheery and
good-tempered, she was often the cause of heart-burning in others. For,
how could she be expected to respect the secrets of her quondam friends
when they had quarrelled with her “dearest friend” of the moment?
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