Woman—through a man's eyeglassSalaman, Malcolm C. (Malcolm Charles)
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Woman—through a man's eyeglass
Salaman, Malcolm C. (Malcolm Charles)
Single women; Wives -- Anecdotes; Women -- Anecdotes; Women -- Social and moral questions
It will be seen, therefore, that Mrs. Meanwell is naturally fitted to
fill the position of “dearest friend” to all kinds and conditions of
women, and, certainly, her experience has been as varied as are her
qualifications. Therefore, it could hardly be expected that she would
confine her sympathetic offices to one friend, or be content with a
single stock of confidences. At the same time she is an enthusiastic
partisan, and if any of her “dearest friends” be involved in any
social squabbles, matrimonial troubles, or financial difficulties, she
is on the warpath at once. She is like an Indian scout, and carries
intelligence from camp to camp. Mrs. Meanwell has codes of loyalty
of her own, and she is her own arbiter in the matter, women being
proverbially unable to bind themselves arbitrarily to one code as men
must do. For that reason we never talk of a woman of honour as we talk
of a man of honour; it would be too unfair. Women have quite enough
restrictions and responsibilities to bear without having to trouble
themselves with an exacting code of loyalty towards each other. So a
little elasticity in this matter is, perhaps, excusable—at all events,
since feminine custom stales its infinite variety.
However, I daresay—in fact I feel sure—that Mrs. Meanwell is as
loyal to her “dearest friends” as they are to her; and if mischief
be sometimes made between them by the too officious repetition of
some innocently-betrayed confidence, it is the fault of the person
who made the mischief, not of Mrs. Meanwell, who never intended what
she said to be told again. And, of course, it has been entirely
distorted in the telling. Is it likely that _she_, her dearest friend’s
“dearest friend,” would tell anything told to her in confidence, if
she thought it would be repeated? Not that Mrs. Meanwell received it
originally as a confidence; she thought other people knew it too, and
after all it was such a good story, and if it sounded rather unkind
in the repetition, _she_ never told it in that spirit. Had not her
friend laughed herself when she told it to her originally? But some
people have no tact, and never know when, where, or to whom a personal
story may be told without offence. So Mrs. Meanwell was not really
responsible for the ill-timed and unwarranted repetition, and to say
she was disloyal is most unkind and unwomanly.
Who could resist such reasoning? Who could continue to regard Mrs.
Meanwell other than as a “dearest friend” after such an unanswerable
defence? Anyhow, the intermediary mischief-maker “it was who died,”
or rather who fell into disfavour, and she, after all, was absolutely
innocent in the matter, and acted in perfect good faith, for she merely
wished to warn her friend against being too confidential with a woman
who gossiped about other people’s affairs. Mrs. Meanwell a gossip!
What next, I should like to know? How these “dearest friends” love one
another.
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