Womanhood : $b The facts of life revealed to womenGoddard, Gloria
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Womanhood : $b The facts of life revealed to women
Goddard, Gloria
Married women -- Psychology; Women -- Social and moral questions
_Adolescence._—It is the habit of age to call youth the golden era, to
speak of that period as the halcyon days of life, and to look back over
its tempestuous beauty with eyes misted by years and longing. It is one
of man’s most regrettable traits that he is ceaselessly yearning back
toward the past. For the few brief years of childhood, he is content in
the present, and looks, if he looks at all, toward the beckoning doorway
of the future. Once he has reached that threshold, he commences the
endless looking back, until we have a race of Lot’s wives whose souls,
at least, are static from backward glances. This is particularly true of
women, though it applies in general to the whole race. The child with her
dolls is happy, and in her play looks toward the future when she will be
a grown woman. Every girl who mothers her dolls has a yearning toward
motherhood, but let the period for that estate arrive, and she looks
back tearfully on her carefree childhood. Once the girl has stepped,
irrevocably, into the narrow pathway of adolescence that leads to the
opening door of maturity, she commences looking back. The adolescent girl
pins up her hair, or bobs it, today, and gazes regretfully at the curls
of childhood. She packs away her dolls, and passes the closet where they
are sleeping with a sigh. The widespread fad of fancy dolls that has
swept the country during the past few years has a double significance.
Largely, it points toward starved motherhood. It is the irrefutable sign
that there are thousands of women who long for children, but who, for
various reasons, deny that urge. It points to something else, too. It is
the answer to that harking back to childhood, when dolls were the only
children, and all the world was play.
This is regrettable. Looking back to the past is a deadening pastime. No
one period of life should be more delightful than another. The rounded
person lives fully in the present, and looks toward the future happily,
with no yearnings toward the past. The chief reason why people look
back, rather than forward is that, through faulty education, unfortunate
miscomprehension, they spoil the present and see no hope for doing
otherwise with the future. If we study the matter sensibly, we will
see that we do not actually want to go back to the past for its actual
activities; what we want is the happy carefree life we then enjoyed. But,
if people lived rightly and thought correctly, they would not want to go
back from a state of comparative freedom to a period of supervision. No
normal, healthy adult wants to go back to a period wherein all of his
thinking is done for him. It is merely an effort to dodge the cares of
life. But, if our lives are properly regulated, and if we are properly
educated, our cares will not hamper us, and gathering years will increase
rather than decrease our enjoyment of living.
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