Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-trainingPuller, Edwin Seward
Science
Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-training
Puller, Edwin Seward
Boys; Child rearing
There hangs in the bedroom of the children of a certain devout mother
a large frame which contains, in illuminated letters, the twentieth
verse of the third chapter of Paul’s “Epistle to the Colossians”:
“Children, obey your parents in all things; for this is well pleasing
to the Lord.” In commenting on this visual injunction she said:
“Obedience is the chief cornerstone of child-training and I have thus
endeavored to fix it in the memories of my children for all time.” The
commandment--“Honor thy father and thy mother”--is just as real and
vital today as it was in the time of Moses, although present-day home
conditions are not always conducive to its observance.
Too many children of the present, especially during adolescence,
regard their parents with an attitude of tolerant sufferance--as
necessary evils to be endured by them but exhibiting little patience
in their toleration. They consider them old-fogy, behind the times,
uncomprehending and unsympathetic with their interests, plans, and
aspirations. Father is esteemed largely in proportion to his success as
a producer; while mother is valued in accordance with her contributions
to their physical comfort; and this imperfect recognition of parental
aid comprises the sum total of their gratitude; for no acknowledgment
is ever made of their obligation for the years of watchfulness of
health or solicitude for morals or cultivation of the spiritual life.
This attitude is due partly to the psychological unbalance of the
adolescent and partly to the slovenly, inconsistent, and wishy-washy
methods of government used by the parent, which inspire in the youth
not only disobedience but contempt for parental authority which is
as vacillating as a weather cock. Without obedience the child drifts
aimlessly and develops a character as unstable as the parental system
of training is fluctuating. Confirmed cases of juvenile disobedience
can be traced, almost without exception, to the jellyfish methods of
spineless parents. An increase in rigidity of parental backbone will
result in a corresponding increase in filial obedience.
Obedience is the fundamental law of child-training and upon it the
development of future character is predicated. Obedience in children
is too frequently regarded by parents as the chief end of training,
and not as the means to the end, which is character. The young child
has neither code of morals nor a standard of ethics, but is a rule
unto himself, propelled only by impulses of selfish interest. The chief
objective of child-training is the cultivation and fixation of a high
moral code which produces character. The secondary objectives are the
conservation of health and discipline of the intellectual faculties,
the latter including the communication of knowledge.
Public-domain text, read in full here on John Shaqi.
Reviews
Reviews
No reviews yet
Be the first to share your thoughts on this work.
Join the Discussion
Join the discussion
Sign in to leave a comment or review.
Sign InorCreate an account