Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-trainingPuller, Edwin Seward
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Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-training
Puller, Edwin Seward
Boys; Child rearing
Parental prohibitions of undesirable acts, as well as suggestions of
wished-for conduct, should be so uniform, constant, and consistent that
the child will be able to deduce from them what his course of conduct
should be when confronted in the future with the desire to do or not to
do an act of similar nature. It is thus that he builds up his standard
of conduct and formulates his code of morals. Trivial objections to
acts or conduct, not grounded in reason and justice, inspire disrespect
for parents and disobedience to their authority, and befog the moral
vision of childhood. If the child is to respect parental authority, he
must have been so habituated to obedience by the parental system of
government that he will obey easily and involuntarily from force of
habit. Habit is the tendency to do naturally, easily, and with growing
certainty those things which we are accustomed by constant repetition
to do. The habit of obedience is formed most easily in early childhood
and when obedience becomes crystallized into habit, a strong foundation
has been laid for the building of strong character.
Obedience is cultivated by consistency in parental commands which
invariably must be founded on reason and justice and enforced with a
firmness of will which cannot be swayed by sentimental considerations
of leniency. Consistency is a jewel which shines nowhere so brightly
as in the crown of child-training, but it must be mounted in resolute
adherence to fixed ideals of character-culture. Obedience should be
distinguished from unwilling submission to a superior force. The former
implies subjection of the will and actions to rightful restraint and
not servile submission to authority which is exercised unjustly. The
founders of our republic were obedient to the highest promptings
of liberty and justice when they revolted against the many acts of
injustice imposed by the mother country. Likewise the obedience of a
child can be enforced only through parental commands which are founded
on justice and reason; and we should even go a step farther and
convince him that they are just and reasonable. Here is a typical case:
A boy requested permission of his mother to go swimming--as boys are
wont to do.
She replied, “No! you may not go!”
“But why not, mother?” was the natural and reasonable inquiry of her
son.
“Just because I don’t want you to go,” was the unconvincing answer.
“Ah! that’s no reason, mother. Why can’t I go?”
“Because I have said no! Now, that settles it!” And with this answer
she concluded the colloquy.
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