Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-trainingPuller, Edwin Seward
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Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-training
Puller, Edwin Seward
Boys; Child rearing
The result of the new method of boy-control now used by children’s
courts is to reduce the number of commitments to industrial schools,
reform schools, and other similar agencies of detention and correction
from seventy-five to approximately ten in each hundred. Where the
environment of home life is bad, the court does not hesitate to remove
the child from his home to a place in which he will not be handicapped
by such influence.
Our juvenile courts are at once a standing reproach to thoughtless,
indifferent, ignorant, and wayward parents and a beacon light for the
guidance of the unhappy children of such parents to useful citizenship.
They inspire the admiration, sympathy, and coöperation of every lover
of children who sees in them the future of our great republic.
CHAPTER XVIII
CONCLUSIONS
Every boy is endowed “with certain inalienable rights,” not the least
of which is the right to be so trained that he will approach the
stature of perfect manhood. It is a birthright in the same sense as
his right from birth to food, clothing, and shelter. And this right of
the child fixes upon the parent the corresponding duty of supplying
intelligent training and character-building environment. The basis of
all boy-training is parent-training, which I wish to emphasize even at
the risk of continued reiteration. And parent-training should be based
on a knowledge of boy-psychology and its application to the evolution
of the boy, which will throw a flood of light on many of the problems
which we formerly attempted to solve in the dark. His physical and
moral growth are so dependent upon or intimately related to his mental
growth that the solution of his psychological problems will, in most
cases, tend to solve the others.
The subject presents no serious difficulties to the parent who
possesses a consciousness of its importance to the welfare of his son.
All of us have certain preconceived ideas on boy-training which emanate
from the adult viewpoint and the adult standard of morals. We realize
how, if we were in our son’s place, we would act or ought to act, but
too often we forget that this is an application of the adult standard
which is psychologically impossible to the boy. Get the boy’s viewpoint.
Patience, tact, and insight; insight, tact, and patience will work
wonders with your boy. Insight is but another name for the boy’s
viewpoint; it implies acquaintance with his psychology. The adult
viewpoint of boy-problems is out of focus. We must re-adjust our
psychologic lenses to see and perceive the motives which actuate his
conduct, if we are to judge justly and sentence righteously. While the
parent is passing judgment on his son’s acts, he should not forget
to pass judgment on his own judgment. In training your boy, “you are
handling soul-stuff and destiny waits just around the corner.”
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