Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-trainingPuller, Edwin Seward
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Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-training
Puller, Edwin Seward
Boys; Child rearing
Again I would stress the need of a companionship between father and
son which should attain the intimacy of chumship. Such relationship
is indispensable to a knowledge of all his difficulties, trials and
troubles, for he will attempt to solve them in his own crude way if
there is no one to whom he can lay bare his soul in the belief that he
will find sympathetic understanding and advice. Fewer sons would go
astray if more fathers would be big brothers to them. The foundation
of such companionship is laid in infancy and early boyhood, but it is
neglected and frequently lost at puberty, at which time it is most
needed. We are quite willing to accept the pleasures of association
with the light-hearted frankness and joyousness of infancy, but too
often we evade the responsibility of sharing the burdens of the
adolescent.
Few fathers know their adolescent sons. It is true that they recognize
the exterior boy and are familiar with his patent activities, but
they seldom know his inner self and it is his inner self which needs
help. Unfortunately, we men are endowed with a superfluous amount of
egotism which causes us to assume that our sons will, through heredity
or force of our example, absorb or inhale much of our surplus moral
virtue. Few boys can work out their own salvation. The let-alone policy
is no policy at all. A passive system of training cannot be commended
for results. Instead, a plan of active, suggestive, sympathetic,
intelligent, and informative coöperation will produce the same
beneficial results when applied to the boy-problem as to a business
problem.
Certain apparent deficiencies of intellect as well as of character
are often the result of influences far removed from those which are
commonly assigned as their compelling causes. It is usual for us to
look for the immediate and proximate causes of ailments while remote
causes are often unsuspected. Among such causes are the physical
abnormalities known as adenoids and hypertrophied tonsils, both of
which exercise sinister influence in repressing the growth of intellect
and character. It is now generally conceded by the medical profession
that these conditions exercise such a profound influence on the
physical and nervous system that the free and normal development of
intellect as well as of character is retarded. Frequently the boy who
is backward in school and who often displays tendencies toward truancy,
evasion, and falsehood because of his mental retardation has reached
this state on account of his physical condition.
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