سَأَلْتُ أَبَا الْحَسَنِ ( عليه السلام ) عَنْ قَوْلِ اللَّهِ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ وَ لكِنْ لا تُواعِدُوهُنَّ سِرًّا قَالَ يَقُولُ الرَّجُلُ أُوَاعِدُكِ بَيْتَ آلِ فُلَانٍ يُعَرِّضُ لَهَا بِالرَّفَثِ وَ يَرْفُثُ يَقُولُ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ إِلَّا أَنْ تَقُولُوا قَوْلًا مَعْرُوفاً وَ الْقَوْلُ الْمَعْرُوفُ التَّعْرِيضُ بِالْخِطْبَةِ عَلَى وَجْهِهَا وَ حِلِّهَا وَ لا تَعْزِمُوا عُقْدَةَ النِّكاحِ حَتَّى يَبْلُغَ الْكِتابُ أَجَلَهُ .
Translation
Muhammad Bin Yahya, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad, from Ali Bin Al Hakam, from Ali Bin Abu Hamza who said, ‘I asked Abu Al-Hassan<sup>asws</sup> about the Words of Allah<sup>azwj</sup> Mighty and Majestic <span class="ibTxt"><a href="/#/books/quran:2#h235"><a href="/books/quran:2#h235">[2:235]</a></a> but do not give them a promise in secret (during their waiting period) unless you speak to them in a lawful manner and you must not decide to form terms of marriage until the appointed time is complete</span>. He<sup>asws</sup> said: ‘The man is saying the place of your date (with me) is the house of so and so family’. He makes advances to her and he is shameless. Allah<sup>azwj</sup> Mighty and Majestic is Saying <span class="ibTxt">unless you speak in a goodly manner</span>, and the goodly words is the introduction with the proposal upon its aspect, and its lawfulness <span class="ibTxt">and do not confirm the marriage tie until the writing is fulfilled</span>’.
Compiled by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ya'qub al-Kulayni
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