Are Parents People? — John Stuart Mill — John Shaqi
Are Parents People?
John Stuart Mill · en
The princess had often noticed that Americans in Europe explained
themselves a good deal. Perhaps citizens of a republic must explain
themselves socially; after all, a princess does not need explanation.
Charlotte on these evenings explained herself. Even as a child, she
said, she had been reaching out for beauty--a less sophisticated person
would have called it culture--when she had married she had thought only
of the romance of it--she had been very much in love with her husband,
ten years older than she, already successful; a dominating nature,
she had not thought then that they were out of sympathy about the
impersonal aspects of life--art, beauty. It was natural for Charlotte
to slip into the discussion of her own problem--the problem of the
American husband--so kind, so virtuous, so successful, but alas, so
indifferent to the finer arts of living.
"What are we to do, we American women?" Charlotte wailed. "We grow
up, we educate ourselves to know the good from the bad, the ugly from
the beautiful--and then we fall in love and marry some man to whom it
is all a closed book; who is sometimes jealous of interests he cannot
share. Sometimes it seems as if we should crush all that is best in
us in order to be good wives to our husbands. You Europeans are so
lucky--you and your men have the same tastes and the same interests."
"At least," said the princess politely, "your men are very generous in
allowing you to come abroad without them. Ours wouldn't have that for a
minute."
Charlotte laughed. "Our men would rather we came alone than asked them
to go with us. You can't imagine how bored my husband is in Europe.
He speaks no language but his own, and instead of meeting interesting
people he goes to his nearest office and entirely reorganizes it."
The princess had always wanted to know whether these deserted American
husbands had other love affairs; or, rather, not so much whether they
had them as whether they were permitted to have them. Here was an
excellent opportunity for finding out. She put her question, as she
felt, delicately, but Charlotte was obviously a little shocked.
"Oh, no!" she said quickly. "At least Dan doesn't. Dan isn't a bit
horrid in ways like that."
Lisa felt inclined to disagree with the adjective. Human, she would
have called it. At the same time she felt extremely sympathetic with
Charlotte's situation. She knew how she herself would have suffered
if she had married a competent business man who lived in a brownstone
front with a long drawing-room like a tunnel, and talked nothing but
business at dinner. She inquired whether Mr. Haines was in Wall Street,
and heard that he was the head of the Haines Heating Corporations. Then
making more extended inquiries in her practical Latin way, she saw that
she had found the right opening for Raimundo.