Wives of men of great vital force are not long before they become
delicate, sickly and nervous, and, entirely ignorant of the real cause
Of their feebleness, seek relief by taking “a good iron tonic,” which
does them about as much good as if they had left it alone, the tonic
effect of iron being entirely overestimated, but the delusion is
created by associating the word iron with the idea strength. After the
different _tonics_ have been tried, the patient consults a physician,
who, on general principles and after a hasty examination, informs her
that she has “womb disease.” These two words for the time being settle
the question; she now begins “to doctor,” and from the general or
family doctor she finds her way to the _female_ specialists, who, as a
rule, belong to the recognized magnifiers and humbugs of the day. Here
she becomes one of the regular habitues of the specialist’s waiting
room, disappointed and not a little discouraged. She makes the rounds
of the most prominent of them, until she has been doctored out of her
dear patience and her still dearer money. Hope is often a forlorn
consolation, and if by chance she now takes a trip to the country or
undertakes a long visit at some distance, to her folks, which gives the
poor woman respite from the “marital rights” of her Lord and Master,
she recovers her former health, strength and buoyancy. Of course
everybody congratulates her upon the wonderful effect of the climate,
when the climate had no more to do with her recovery than the moon. The
remarkable change was owing to having been let alone by husband and
doctor.
That the attempt to call attention to these flagrant abuses of the
dishonesty and ignorance of the one and the blind animal instinct
of the other will be decried and stigmatized as “cranky,” I know
beforehand, but I know also, that those who criticise these sentiments
are fully convinced of the truth of the statement. The diseases
that belong to this class are, like most uterine diseases, of an
inflammatory nature, and for that reason _rest_ is one of the most
essential features in the treatment. But as this class belongs to the
avoidable causes, prevention is much better than cure. I therefore
advise, as of first importance, to abandon the American custom of man
and wife occupying the same bed, which is only customary among the
poorer classes of Europe, who cannot afford to have separate beds or
chambers. The advantage of the European custom in segregating one’s
self on retirement, to avoid the sexual instincts being unduly excited,
can be borne out by remembering the physiology of the instinct, which
we were told is excited by sight and feeling. Besides these, there
is the possible undue familiarity, which the joint occupancy of the
chamber or bed of man and wife may engender, and that, too, is likely
to lead to excessive relations.