Progress and Achievements of the Colored People: Containing the Story of the Wonderful Advancement of the Colored Americans—the Most Marvelous in the History of Nations—Their Past Accomplishments, Together With Their Present-day Opportunities and a Glimpse Into the Future for Further Developments—the Dawn of a Triumphant Era. A Handbook for Self-improvement Which Leads to Greater Success
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It sometimes happens that a child brought up under these circumstances
finds himself, in adult life, placed amidst other scenes. He immediately
sees the difference and compares his training to those around him. If he
is ambitious and wants to change his mode of life, he has to commence
all over again his work of imitation. He has reason with him now to help
him, yet he will at first find it uphill work; but when he succeeds, he
will be the much better man. Should a child when he reaches adult age
care not to pluck these traits from his character, he becomes at once a
rude, dangerous member to society and a grievance to those with whom he
comes in contact.
Too much care cannot be taken in teaching the children the avoidance of
sham. This must especially be insisted on in the matter of dress. Most
all of us are fond of “fine raiment,” and we cannot help but feel that
appearances play an important part in life. It must be the avoidance of
imitating of finery and the adoption of the substantial in dress, that
we must teach our children.
GLITTERING IMITATIONS A SERIOUS EVIL
In the matter of dress, girls are more influenced by its grandeur than
are boys, and the wise mother will do well to teach her daughter
simplicity in everything. Never allow her to wear imitations of precious
stones or jewelry. This is not only bad taste, but it is a bad habit to
form. Many a poor girl has fallen from grace just through the love of
glittering baubles. Teach her never to rouge her cheeks or use
cosmetics. If Nature has not given her a perfect complexion, she can
never get it by imitation. “You can’t cheat Nature,” but you can aid it.
Have her imitate God’s creatures by copying cleanliness, simple eating
and regular habits. She may not get a faultless complexion—few people
have this gift—but she can get that soft texture of skin, that buoyancy
of spirit, that brightness of eye with the soul showing through. Let
these be her models and the imitation will be of real worth.
GUIDANCE IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION
While the imitation of dress and the lighter vanities of life are more
indulged in by the girl, the boy also is a decided imitator in other
weaknesses. A boy will imitate any quality which he thinks manly. Would
that the points they imitate deserved this name, but most of the things
they copy are those which will sooner or later, make slaves of them. How
early we see the tiny tot of three or four years placing a piece of
stick or anything which resembles a cigar, between his lips. Watch him
puff at it; see him imitate the strut of a man. This sometimes appears
comical, and the child is often prevailed upon to show how clever he is.
Alas, this is only the first attempt to imitate the manly arts, and if
not guided in the right direction his imitations may become a tragedy
instead of a comedy.