Is it possible that you who should delight in virtuous sentiments,
should have fallen into that cruel error, and have adopted the notion,
that a lover once made happy need no longer pay any regard to decorum,
and that those have no title to respect whose cruelty is no longer to
be feared. Alas, had you always thought thus, your power would have
been less dreadful, and I should have been less unhappy. But mistake
not, my friend; nothing is so pernicious to true lovers as the
prejudices of the world; so many talk of love and so few know what it
is, that most people mistake its pure and gentle laws for the vile
maxims of an abject commerce, which, soon satiated, has recourse to
the monsters of imagination, and, in order to support itself, sinks
into depravity.
Possibly I may be mistaken; but it seems to me that true love is the
chastest of all human connections; and that the sacred flame of love
should purify our natural inclinations, by concentring them in one
object. It is love that secures us from temptation, and makes the
whole sex indifferent, except the beloved individual.
To a woman indifferent to love, every man is the same, and all are
men; but to her whose heart is truly susceptible of that refined
passion, there is no other man in the world but her lover. What do I
say? Is a lover no more than a man? He is a being far superior! There
exists not a man in the creation with her who truly loves: her lover
is more, and all others are less; they live for each other, and are
the only beings of their species. They have no desires; they love. The
heart is not led by, but leads, the senses, and throws over their
errors the veil of delight. There is nothing obscene but in lewdness
and its gross language. Real love, always modest, seizes not
impudently its favours, but steals them with timidity. Secrecy,
silence, and a timorous bashfulness heighten and conceal its delicious
transports; its flame purifies all its caresses, while decency and
chastity attend even its most sensual pleasures. It is love alone that
knows how to gratify the desires without trespassing on modesty. Tell
me, you who once knew what true pleasures were, how can a cynic
impudence be consistent with their enjoyment? Will it not deprive that
enjoyment of all its sweetness? Will it not deface that image of
perfection that represents the beloved object? Believe me, my friend,
lewdness and love can never dwell together; they are incompatible. On
the heart depends the true happiness of those who love; and where love
is absent, nothing can supply its place.