Suppress a part of this caricature representation; place my Eloisa in
opposition to the rest, and remember the sincerity of my heart: I have
nothing more to add.
However, I must confess, that many of these disagreeable impressions
are effaced by custom. Though the dark side of their character may
first catch our attention, it is no reason why we should be blind to
their amiable qualities. The charms of their understanding and good
humour are no small addition to their personal accomplishments. Our
first repugnance overcome frequently generates a contrary sentiment.
It is not just to view the picture only in its worst point of sight.
The first inconveniency of great cities is, that mankind are generally
disguised, and that in society they appear different from what they
really are. This is particularly true in Paris with regard to the
ladies, who derive from the observation of others, the only existence
about which they are solicitous. When you meet a lady in public,
instead of seeing a Parisian, as you imagine, you behold only a
phantom of the fashion: her stature, dimension, gait, shape, neck,
colour, air, look, language, every thing is assumed; so that, if you
were to see her in her natural state, you would not know her to be the
same creature. But this universal mask is greatly to her disadvantage;
for nature’s substitutes are always inferior to herself: besides, it
is almost impossible to conceal her entirely; in spite of us, she will
now and then discover herself, and in seizing her with dexterity
consists the true art of observation. This is indeed no difficult
matter in conversing with the women of this country, for, if you take
them off their grand theatre of representation, and consider them
attentively, you will see them as they really are, and it is then
possible that your aversion may be changed into esteem and friendship.