My enquiries had no sooner taken this turn, than I began to discover a
thousand advantageous particulars in the very women who before
appeared so insupportable. Indeed all strangers are agreed, that,
provided you exclude the fashionable topic, there is no country in the
world whose women have more knowledge, talk more sensibly, with more
judgment, and are more capable of giving advice. If from the Spanish,
Italian, or German ladies, we should take the jargon of gallantry and
wit, what would there remain of their conversation? and you, my
Eloisa, are not ignorant how it is in general with our country-women.
But if, with a French woman, a man has resolution to sacrifice his
pretensions to gallantry, and to draw her out of that favourite
fortress, she will then make a virtue of necessity, and arming herself
with reason, will fight manfully in the open field. With regard to
their goodness of heart. I will not instance their zeal to serve their
friends; for, as with the rest of mankind, that may partly proceed
from self-love. But, though they generally love no body but
themselves, long habit will frequently produce in them the effects of
a sincere friendship. Those who have constancy enough to support an
attachment of ten years, commonly continue it to the end of their
lives, and they will then love their old friends with more tenderness,
at least with more fidelity than their new lovers.
One common accusation against the women of France is, that they do
every thing, and consequently more evil than good; but it may be
observed in their justification, that in doing evil they are
stimulated by the men, and in doing good are actuated by their own
principles. This does not in any ways contradict what I said before,
that the heart has no concern in the commerce between the two sexes;
for the gallantry of the French has given to the women an universal
power, which stands in no need of tenderness to support it. Every
thing depends upon the ladies; all things are done by them or for
them; Olympus and Parnassus, glory and fortune, are equally subject to
their laws. Neither books nor authors have any other value or esteem
than that which the ladies are pleased to allow them. There is no
appeal from their decree in matters of the nicest judgment or most
trivial taste. Poetry, criticism, history, philosophy, are all
calculated for the ladies, and even the bible itself has lately been
metamorphosed into a polite romance. In public affairs, their
influence arises from their natural ascendency over their husbands,
not because they are their husbands, but because they are men, and it
would be monstrous for a man to refuse any thing to a lady, even
though she were his wife.