Good Form and Christian EtiquetteHenry, S. M. I. (Sarepta Myrenda Irish)
Religion
Good Form and Christian Etiquette
Henry, S. M. I. (Sarepta Myrenda Irish)
Etiquette
This would depend on the character of the company. One chaperon would
not be sufficient for a company of young men and young women. There
should be _chaperons_,—a man for the young men, and a woman for the
young women; and if the company is large, there should be a sufficient
number of elderly companions to give them all necessary protection and
support in the enjoyment of the occasion. There could be no reason why a
select party of young people, properly accompanied, should not enjoy an
outing of this description. But in such a case it would be not only bad
form, but criminal, for any young man or woman to take advantage of the
occasion to break over any of the protective regulations upon which all
should agree before starting out. Common politeness and good sense would
lead each to co-operate with all to secure the most perfect good order
in the camp from beginning to end, by daylight and dark.
“Is it proper for young people to take moonlight rides together?”
A moonlight ride for a company of young people, accompanied by fathers
and mothers, or teachers, or suitable friends of mature age, would
certainly be proper and enjoyable. Under no other circumstances.
“What would you say to a young man who would stand around and talk
with a young woman while she is at work?”
That he was indulging in a very rustic and childish procedure, impolite
in the highest degree, necessarily hindering and prolonging the work of
the young woman, and perhaps complicating all the affairs of the day.
What would I say to him?—That he had better go and finish his work while
I finish mine, and then if he has really anything to say, come to the
family sitting-room, at some suitable time, and we will talk it over.
“What is the best way for a woman to meet indecent remarks or actions
from a man? Should she ‘scorch’ him, or slap him in the face?”
Neither. To take the slightest notice of him or of his remarks is to
give the man the advantage. At such a time as this rudeness would not be
good form. The only safe course would be to ignore him as you would the
buzz of the locust in the tree, or the sound of the cable along the
track of the car line. You are obliged to be conscious of its presence,
but you go on your way, just the same, and let it buzz or roar. Whatever
such a fellow may say or do, never turn your eyes one hair’s breadth.
Allow him to wonder if you are really blind and deaf. A word or act of
even protest would give him a chance to reply. One word would call for
another, and no one could possibly forecast where it would end.
“What can be done with students who will not listen to the advice of
teachers upon questions of proper behavior, who will not believe what
is told them about the character of those with whom they are
associating?”
Unless it is a reform school, the only thing would be to send them home.
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