Italian courtesy-books : $b Fra Bonvicino da Riva's fifty courtesies for the table (Italian and English) with other translations and elucidationsBonvesin, da la Riva
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Italian courtesy-books : $b Fra Bonvicino da Riva's fifty courtesies for the table (Italian and English) with other translations and elucidations
Bonvesin, da la Riva
Courtesy books -- Early works to 1800
16th treats
Of certain general precepts
To all women; and of their ornaments,
And their adventures.
17th, of their consolations.
18th, because sometimes
They must know how to speak and converse
And answer, and be in company,
Here will be treated upon questions of love
And courtesy and breeding.
19th treats
Of certain motetts and messages[39]
Of ladies to knights,
And of other sorts
Of women and men.
The 20th treats
Of certain orisons.
And in this part is the conclusion
Of the book; and how I carry this book
To the Lady who is above-named,[40]
And how she receives it;
And how the Virtues
Come before her.’
The promise here is rich indeed, and the performance also is rich; though
it may fairly be said that various sections fall considerably below
one’s expectations, and some of them are jejune enough. But, after every
deduction has been made, the work fills a niche of its own, and without
competitor.
I add a few of the details most germane to our purpose.
A young girl should drink but little, and that diluted. She
must not loll at table, nor prop her arms thereon. Here she
should speak even less than at other times. The daughters of
Knights (Cavalier da Scudo), Judges, Physicians, or others of
similar condition, had better learn the art of cooking, though
possibly circumstances will not call upon them to put it in
practice.
A Princess approaching the marriageable age should not go out
to church; as she ought, as far as possible, to avoid being
seen about. (The marriageable age, be it understood, is very
early by Barberino’s reckoning, being twelve years.) A woman
should never go out alone.
An unmarried young lady had better wear a topaz, which is
proved by experience to be an antidote to carnal desire.
A Provençal gentleman, who was praising his wife for her
extreme simplicity in attire, was asked, ‘Why then does she
comb her hair?’ He replied: ‘To show that she is a woman, whose
very nature it is to be trim in person.’
A Lady’s-maid should not tell tales to her mistress of any
peccadilloes of the husband: still less should she report to
the husband anything against his wife, unless it be a grave and
open misdoing.
The section concerning Nurses (Part 13) contains much curious
matter: especially as showing how much reliance was placed
upon swaddling and other details of infant management, for
the improvement of good looks, and correction of blemishes.
Here we find also that the system against which Rousseau waged
such earnest war, of mothers’ not suckling their own children,
was already in full vigour in Barberino’s time. He enters no
protest against it; but does recommend mothers to follow the
more natural plan, if they can, and so please God, and earn the
children’s love.[41]
Public-domain text, read in full here on John Shaqi.
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