Life in the sick-room : $b EssaysMartineau, Harriet
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Life in the sick-room : $b Essays
Martineau, Harriet
Conduct of life; Sick
I know it is pleaded that there are sufferers not strong enough to bear
the truth--who like to be soothed with hopes, well or ill-grounded; who
find immediate comfort in being told that they will throw off their pain
and be at ease. If there be such, I have never known them; and I doubt
their existence. I believe that the tendency to make the worst of bodily
complaints, on which so many satires (some just) are founded, is much
aggravated, if not generally caused, by the tendency in the healthy and
happy to disallow pain and a sad prospect. Children, weak and
unpractised sufferers as they are, are found not to be consolable in the
manner proposed. We all know the story of the little boy in the street,
crying from the smart of a fall, who, when assured by a good-natured
passenger that he should not cry, because he would be well to-morrow,
answered, “Then I won’t cry to-morrow.”
The weakest sufferers are precisely those who are least able to
appropriate the future and its good things. If this be true of the
weak, and if the strong find it irritating to be medicined with soft
fictions, or presented with anything but sound truth, the popular method
of consolation appears to be excluded altogether. If my own life were to
be lived over again, I should, from the strength of this conviction,
convert most of its words of intended consolation into a far more
consolatory condolence. Never again should the suffering spirit turn
from me, as I fear it has often done--if too gentle to be irritated--yet
sickening at hollow words of promise, when instant fellow-feeling was
what was needed; and mournfully thinking, though too kind to say it,
“‘the heart knoweth its own bitterness,’ and mine must endure alone.”
The fair retribution has not followed, for never thus have I been left
to feel.
I am here reminded of a sort of consolation, often offered, which I do
not at all understand. I do not quarrel with it, however, for it may
suit others less insensible to its claims. Sequestered sufferers, whose
term of activity is over, and who apparently have only to endure as they
may, and learn and enjoy what they can, till they receive their summons
to enter on a new career, are referred for solace to their
consciences--to their consciousness of services rendered to society, and
duty done in active days. I strongly doubt whether Conscience was ever
appointed to the function of Consoler. I more than doubt; I disbelieve
it. According to my own experience, the utmost enjoyment that conscience
is capable of is a negative state, that of ease. Its power of suffering
is strong; and its natural and best condition I take to be one of simple
ease; but for enjoyment and consolation, I believe we must look to other
powers and susceptibilities of our nature.
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