Parents and childrenMason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Philosophy
Parents and children
Mason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Child rearing; Education -- Parent participation
And what mother has not bowed before the princely heart of innocence in
her own little child? But apart from this, of their glad living in the
sunshine of the Divine Countenance, surely our children are “more so”
than those of earlier days. Never before was a “Jackanapes” written,
or the “Story of a Short Life.” Shakespeare never made a child, nor
Scott, hardly Dickens, often as he tried; either we are waking up to
what is in them, or the children are indeed advancing in the van of the
times, holding in light grasp the gains of the past, the possibilities
of the future. It is the age of child-worship; and very lovely are the
well-brought-up children of Christian and cultured parents. But, alas!
how many of us degrade the thing we love! Think of the multitude of the
innocents to be launched on the world, already mutilated, spiritually
and morally, at the hands of doting parents.
The duteous father and mother, on the contrary, who discern any lovely
family trait in one of their children, set themselves to nourish and
cherish it as a gardener the peaches he means to show. We know how
“that kiss made me a painter,” that is, warmed into life whatever
art faculty the child had. The choicer the plant, the gardener tells
us, the greater the pains must he take with the rearing of it:
and here is the secret of the loss and waste of some of the most
beauteous and lovable natures the world has seen; they have not had
the pains taken with their rearing that their delicate, sensitive
organisations demanded. Think how Shelley was left to himself! We
live in embarrassing days. It is well to cry, “Give us light--more
light and fuller;” but what if the new light discover to us a maze of
obligations, intricate and tedious?
It is, at first sight, bewildering to perceive that for whatever
distinctive quality, moral or intellectual, we discern in the children,
special culture is demanded; but, after all, our obligation towards
each such quality resolves itself into providing for it these four
things: nourishment, exercise, change, and rest.
A child has a great turn for languages (his grandfather was the master
of nine); the little fellow “lisps in Latin,” learns his “_mensa_” from
his nurse, knows his declensions before he is five. What line is open
to the mother who sees such an endowment in her child? First, let him
use it; let him learn his declensions, and whatever else he takes to
without the least sign of effort. Probably the Latin case-endings come
as easily and pleasantly to his ear as does “See-saw, Margery Daw,” to
the ordinary child, though no doubt “Margery Daw” is the wholesomer
kind of thing. Let him do just so much as he takes to of his own
accord; but never urge, never applaud, never show him off. Next, let
words convey ideas as he is able to bear them. Buttercup, primrose,
dandelion, magpie, each tells its own tale; daisy is day’s-eye, opening
with the sun, and closing when he sets--
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