Parents and childrenMason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Philosophy
Parents and children
Mason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Child rearing; Education -- Parent participation
Now, practically, what is the mother’s course who notices in her most
promising child little traits of oddity? He does not care much for
games, does not get on well with the rest, has some little den of his
own where he ruminates. Poor little fellow! he wants a confidante
badly; most likely he has tried nurse and brothers and sisters, to
no purpose. If this go on, he will grow up with the idea that nobody
wants him, nobody understands him, will take his slice of life and
eat it (with a snarl) all by himself. But if his mother have tact
enough to get at him, she will preserve for the world one of its
saving characters. Depend upon it there is something at work in the
child--genius, humanity, poetry, ambition, pride of family. It is
that he wants outlet and exercise for an inherited trait almost too
big for his childish soul. Rosa Bonheur was observed to be a restless
child whose little shoes of life were a misfit: lessons did not please
her, and play did not please her; and her _artist_ father hit on the
notion of soothing the child’s divine discontent by--apprenticing
her to a needlewoman! Happily she broke her bonds, and we have her
pictures. In the case of pride of birth, it is well that the child
should be brought face to face and heart to heart with the “great
humility” of our Pattern. But that being done, this sense of family
distinction is a wonderful lever to raise the little world of the
child’s nature. _Noblesse oblige._ He must needs add honour and not
dishonour to a distinguished family. I know of a little boy who bears
two distinguished family names--Browning-Newton, let us say. He goes
to a preparatory school, where it is the custom to put the names of
defaulters on the blackboard. By-and-by, his little brother went to
school too, and the bigger boy’s exordium was:--“We’ll _never_ let two
such names as ours be stuck up on the blackboard!”
Amongst the immediate causes of eccentricity is the dreariness of daily
living, the sense of which falls upon us all at times, and often with
deadly weight upon the more finely strung and highly gifted. “Oh, dear!
I wish I was in Jupiter!” sighed a small urchin who had already used
up this planet. It rests with the parents to see that the dreariness
of a motiveless life does not settle, sooner or later, on any one of
their children. We are made with a yearning for the “fearful joy” of
passion; and if this do not come to us in lawful ways, we look for it
in eccentric, or worse, in illegitimate courses. The mother, to whom
her child is as an open book, must find a vent for the restless working
of his nature--the more apt to be troubled by--
“The burden of the mystery,
The heavy and the weary weight
Of all this unintelligible world”--
Public-domain text, read in full here on John Shaqi.
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