Psychology and Pedagogy of AngerRichardson, Roy Franklin
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Psychology and Pedagogy of Anger
Richardson, Roy Franklin
Anger
statement was made I saw I had gone too far and felt a little cheap.
I at once noted that he did not take my remark seriously, and felt
relieved. My former resentment had entirely disappeared.”
_Substitution by Disguise._ There are many devices less refined than wit
which are commonly resorted to in slightly disguising the hostile
attack. The offender may be attacked indirectly and impersonally. The
following case will illustrate. F. became angry at a merchant because,
when he went to pay for an article, the price was marked more than he
had previously agreed to pay. Feeling resentful, he said, “I suppose the
bill is all right, the clerk said it would be less, but people in this
town don’t know what they are talking about anyway.” F. observes, “What
I really meant was that you don’t know what you are talking about.” To
avoid making the direct attack, the indefinite pronoun is substituted at
times for the definite. The use of “some one” or “somebody” instead of
“you,” in talking to the offender blunts the remark. The device is
rather cheap affording little pleasure and has but a short fore-period
of restraint. It is carried to an extreme when the subject pretends he
does not know the perpetrator of the offense and in fact may assume it
is some one else, so that he may speak his mind directly to the
offender. I. observes, “I was angry, and talked to her about the affair
as if I did not know that she did it. I wouldn’t have had her to know
that I knew for anything. I told her what I thought of a person who had
acted in that way and noted that she looked cheap. That pleased me.”
Some gossip and vituperate against their enemies and derive a moiety of
ill-gotten pleasure if a sympathetic hearer is found. One subject
states, “I went to tell X., hoping he would be angry too, and felt just
a little disappointed when he was not.” Hints and insinuations often
become devices to avoid a too hostile direct attack.
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