Some Phases of Sexual Morality and Church Discipline in Colonial New EnglandAdams, Charles Francis
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Some Phases of Sexual Morality and Church Discipline in Colonial New England
Adams, Charles Francis
Sexual ethics
saying that, however it originated, such a custom, if recognized and
continued, must degenerate into something coarse and immoral. The
inevitable would follow. The only good and redeeming feature about it was
the utter absence of concealment and secrecy. All was open and recognized.
The very "bundling" was done by the hands of mother and sisters.
As I have said, this custom neither originated in nor was it peculiar to
New England, though in New England, as elsewhere, it did lead to the same
natural results. And I find conclusive evidence of this statement in all
its several parts in the following extract from a book published as late
as 1804, descriptive of customs, etc., then prevailing in North Wales. For
the extract I am indebted to Dr. Stiles:--
"Saturday or Sunday nights are the principal time when this courtship
takes place; and on these nights the men sometimes walk from a
distance of ten miles or more to visit their favorite damsels. This
strange custom seems to have originated in the scarcity of fuel and in
the unpleasantness of sitting together in the colder part of the year
without a fire. Much has been said of the innocence with which these
meetings are conducted; but it is a very common thing for the
consequence of the interview to make its appearance in the world
within two or three months after the marriage ceremony has taken
place."
And again, referring to the same practice as it prevailed in Holland,
another of the authorities quoted by Dr. Stiles, relating his observations
also during the present century, speaks of a--
"courtship similar to bundling, carried on in ... Holland, under the
name of _queesting_. At night the lover has access to his mistress
after she is in bed; and upon application to be admitted upon the bed,
which is of course granted, he raises the quilt or rug, and in this
state _queests_, or enjoys a harmless chit-chat with her, and then
retires. This custom meets with the perfect sanction of the most
circumspect parents, and the freedom is seldom abused. The author
traces its origin to the parsimony of the people, whose economy
considers fire and candles as superfluous luxuries in the long winter
evenings."
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