He told his wife everything. He discussed his business and personal problems with her; and everything went well until he became so successful that a trust bought out his business. As soon as he relaxed, he was aware that he had not known the full joy of living. It was not surprising that at that very time, he met an independent and very attractive woman, and that he fell madly in love with her. He was quite intoxicated; life suddenly had become an intense affair, full of glamour. He was irresistibly drawn into an affair with her, and what was more, he found her so delightful a person, that it appeared to him that the relationship would become permanent. However, his old fondness for his wife was unabated. Their many years together, their complete candor with each other, had given their relationship an enduring basis. He knew, nevertheless, that if his wife got wind of his new relationship, it would quite wreck her life. She was puritanic, she believed in monogamy, and she trusted him completely. He attempted to evade the matter; to get time off by giving business excuses; but she soon became suspicious, and deeply troubled. She knew he was hiding something, and feared that it was exactly as it was. Finally, in his dilemma, he came to an analyst. After hearing the case, the analyst asked him: “Can you give up the other woman?” The poor man was lost in his thoughts for several minutes. Then he looked up, and spoke slowly: “No, I cannot. I should rather die.” Such tragedies are hidden in our present system of inelastic monogamy. Had the wife been brought up to a more sensible attitude, or had either of them been taught the value of sexuality in their youth, the tragedy might have been avoided. Certainly there is one thing that every couple must take into consideration; and that is, that the nature of either may undergo a change so divergent from the other, as to cause the need of a genuine readjustment. But if people take this into consideration, they cannot but be less possessive of one another; and, indeed, too great concentration on each other is usually an evil in marriage. For one thing, it often leads to the feeling of staleness, and this in turn either leads to artificial stimulants, to perversions in the sexuality, or it may end in a break. One of the essentials in most marriages is occasional separation, and diverse interests and relationships. It will be seen then that from the standpoint of common sense there are many reasons for abnormal or unsuccessful sexuality besides those that are due to deeper causes. SOME THINGS TO DO